"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Academics v.s. Girls (and a Social Life)
- Thread starter Contender
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I kind of ignored school till this year. Now I'm learning hard during the week and partying as theres no tomorrow during the weekend. I do this because its my final year and I hope I get into a nice university this autumn.
RedPill
Master Don Juan
I'm not saying don't have a good time ocassionally, but you're gonna notice something when you get done with school. You're going to see most of the people who partied constantly get their a** kicked by reality. Most of them have no plans for their life outside of party and get laid.Contender said:
Actually, back in the school days if I hadn't been such an AFC dumba** I could have gotten laid frequently with minimal partying. Just remember what your priorities are - 1) building a great life for yourself 2) chicks. Most people go by herd mentality though and have those priorities backwards.
A side note... I can't tell you how many girls in college I inadvertantly got hot for me by blowing off because I acted like I had a thousand better things to do than deal with their petty dramas and games. In retrospect I could have easily scored with them while continuing to be the bookworm.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Building a great life for yourself and then go for chicks is great and will make it easier for you to succeed with girls. But you cant just spend 4 years focusing on yourself. That's why you need to balance it.RedPill said:
You attracted the chicks because you showed them that they are not really important in your life, or better said because they are not a priority for you, you could be happy without them. Your attitude was right. But that's it. You just didn't go further.
Why regret later? DO IT NOW!!!
RedPill
Master Don Juan
No kidding!Taviii said:
That's why I'm working on year 26 of focusing on myself.