"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Abundance over 45

Pierce Manhammer

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Interested in knowing how you’re rolling if you’re in my age group, I’m in my early 50’s and consider other men 45-55 to be my cohort. To that end a few questions for you if you fit this description.

1.Are you maintaining a harem?
2.Do you have consistent quality available to you daily, if you choose to?
3.If you maintain a harem, on average how many members to it?
4.Are you banging more than one female a day still? (If ever)

I’d appreciate serious responses - just trying to understand where I fit in the hierarchy.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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CAPSLOCK BANDIT

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Probably 1/2 single women at that age have a personality disorder and they been ran through so now they want you to commit heavy for spoiled goods, there is no point in even entertaining this conversation, I know women 45+ who are still on the **** carousel and I'm not kidding, it's bad out here
 

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Hi Peirce,
The really good news is it just gets better and better as the Female to Male ratio becomes even more tilted your way.
 

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Probably 1/2 single women at that age have a personality disorder and they been ran through so now they want you to commit heavy for spoiled goods, there is no point in even entertaining this conversation, I know women 45+ who are still on the **** carousel and I'm not kidding, it's bad out here
This can be said for women of any age nowadays.
 

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I'm 48. To respond directly.

1. No.
2. No, but don't want so that's totally fine with me.
3. See 1.
4. Not even one female in approx 800 days give or take.
No plans or irons in the fire to change that in the foreseeable.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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mrgoodstuff

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Interested in knowing how you’re rolling if you’re in my age group, I’m in my early 50’s and consider other men 45-55 to be my cohort. To that end a few questions for you if you fit this description.

1.Are you maintaining a harem?
2.Do you have consistent quality available to you daily, if you choose to?
3.If you maintain a harem, on average how many members to it?
4.Are you banging more than one female a day still? (If ever)

I’d appreciate serious responses - just trying to understand where I fit in the hierarchy.
Which environments are you predominantly in where your able to mingle and take it further? Do you have different styles with different ages or groups?
 

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1.Are you maintaining a harem?
No. Played the field during my divorce with geographically separate women for a couple years. One rose to the top early on.

2.Do you have consistent quality available to you daily, if you choose to?
Women in our age bracket seem to be in a distribution of 50% Obese, 25% athletic but not slender, 20% attractive but not athletic 5% athletic, slender and attractive.

3.If you maintain a harem, on average how many members to it?
While not a harem , it was 1 Queen and occasional randoms. I did not bang within my social circle ,but had friends of friends as ONS's. I did rule out a number of women who would have slept with me early on because I did not want to complicate the emotions and time management. Truthfully, My SO had enough sexual appetite, that I didn't NEED a harem.

4.Are you banging more than one female a day still? (If ever)
No. At this point I don't have time or drive to do that. If I did it would be an exception. But I am having sex 1-2X a day with a live in, 5 days a week is not unusual. High Score of 6X a day.
 

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1.Are you maintaining a harem?
No. Played the field during my divorce with geographically separate women for a couple years. One rose to the top early on.

2.Do you have consistent quality available to you daily, if you choose to?
Women in our age bracket seem to be in a distribution of 50% Obese, 25% athletic but not slender, 20% attractive but not athletic 5% athletic, slender and attractive.

3.If you maintain a harem, on average how many members to it?
While not a harem , it was 1 Queen and occasional randoms. I did not bang within my social circle ,but had friends of friends as ONS's. I did rule out a number of women who would have slept with me early on because I did not want to complicate the emotions and time management. Truthfully, My SO had enough sexual appetite, that I didn't NEED a harem.

4.Are you banging more than one female a day still? (If ever)
No. At this point I don't have time or drive to do that. If I did it would be an exception. But I am having sex 1-2X a day with a live in, 5 days a week is not unusual. High Score of 6X a day.
Nice on the sex rate. Your life must be going great.
 

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Interested in knowing how you’re rolling if you’re in my age group, I’m in my early 50’s and consider other men 45-55 to be my cohort. To that end a few questions for you if you fit this description.

1.Are you maintaining a harem?
2.Do you have consistent quality available to you daily, if you choose to?
3.If you maintain a harem, on average how many members to it?
4.Are you banging more than one female a day still? (If ever)

I’d appreciate serious responses - just trying to understand where I fit in the hierarchy.
1. Yes
2. Yes, but it took a few years to get to this point.
3. 3 or 4 with 1 or 2 prospects.
4. Yeah, it happens a lot (wake up in one bed, go to sleep in another).

Nuance: I live with my kids every other week, so only lunchtimes are possible then. I live in a city of small physical size, but a large population, a lot of foreign women, and about 55% women 45% men at my age.
 

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I just turned 50.

1.Are you maintaining a harem?
No, one is enough for me. Maybe the occasional if it happens to fall on my lap without effort. The days of being a sexual tyrannosaurus is behind me.

2.Do you have consistent quality available to you daily, if you choose to?
Women are like flowers. Nice, firm and bright at first but wilt with age. The odd one will hold some eye candy with proper maintenance but increasingly hard to find.
I went to a school reunion just prior to COVID. Yeeesh! The beauty queens with the golden tans were hit by a truck.

3.If you maintain a harem, on average how many members to it?
4.Are you banging more than one female a day still? (If ever)
Both apply to line one. My question is why would you? As we age gracefully, I have better things to do.
Then again, I may need the recovery.
 
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I'm 45 y/o, since @lost_blackbird answered this thread I guess I will too so I won't feel like the odd one out:

1. No.
2. No.
3. Zero.
4. No, never.

@lost_blackbird is probably doing better than I am. I live in Toronto.
 
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1). Pre-Covid, yes. I’ve been in two serious relationships since 11/19 so, NO at this time. (I usually date 20 somethings. But not always).
2). Yes.: Work. Work related. Tinder (not on currently). Baristas, convenience clerks, etc...
3) pre-Covid 3. Now, one.
4). No. Never was that skilled. Just one/day.
 
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