"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Absolutely seething!!! How too handle this???

Aesthetix29

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Okay so I've been off work a week through being ill... Only too come in today too find out there's rumours that I've been doing drugs in front of my ex's kid... Completely untrue of course. My ex works with a girl who's mother works at my works so that's how it's come about... How do I deal with this???? Fuming!!!!
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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RangerMIke

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Where are you from? Get a lawyer and sue whomever is saying this for lible and slander. I had one of my exes friends start spreading rumors about me during our break-up. Filed a civil suit, and she was forced to issue a signed written statement that she made it all up as a condidtion of me dropping the suit.

It really all depends what State/Country you live in. In some States slander laws aren't that big a deal...
 

Lozboss

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Confront Her about it.

Ask her to stop spreading this rumour and that it's untrue.

If she doesn't then take her to HR. It's a sackable offense by her.
 

Aesthetix29

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I've just left it as I think if I confront her then it will spiral out of control .. She's done a complete 180 to when I thought I knew her... She's a proper physcho trying too destroy my life... Thinks it's best too leave well alone. I'm in the process of getting a new job so fingers crossed... This women at work is just vile she thrives of other people's misery ... Aparrantly when I first broke up 3 weeks the day after she was going round too people at work saying that I'm a "dirty ******* filthy etc... In like a vulgar way... But I know I've not done anything of the sort, so I don't know what my ex is saying too her or if she's making it up... If I was that bad the day it ended the finishing text was this -

Hi sorry left my phone at home to think, i dont think i can carry this on i dont want you to think its anything youve done cos it isnt i really need the time to concentrate i tried to convince myself i could do it while i was off work but im not as ready as i thought i would be for a full on relationship x

So that makes me think I can't of done something that bad can it? I think she has some sort of mental disorder! If I never saw her again it'd be too soon!
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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