"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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abs every day?

DarthJuan

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I'm a hard gainer. I'm wondering if it's okay to work the abs everyday.

Also, I don't feel any burn when doing regular crunches. I'm pretty sure I'm performing them properly, but it seems like I can do them forever and not feel like I'm accomplishing much.
But if I do "bicycle" crunches, I tire out and feel the burn.

Thanks.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Griffith

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Don't work them every day -- abs are like any other muscle and need rest.
 

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Ditto. I dont know why people think they can work every day and magically get stronger without rest. Ill work them monday and thursday, thats it for the week.
 

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Originally posted by Griffith
Don't work them every day -- abs are like any other muscle and need rest.
They're not like any other muscle. They have much less potential to grow and recover much quicker.

You're safe working the abs every day as long as they're not sore. I hear about people injuring their arms, chest, legs, and shoulders from over-training all the time (and it's happened to me also, before I knew what I was doing). I don't think I've ever heard of someone hurting their abs. I certainly never have and I work them 5 times a week (would every day if I had time).

Also, I don't feel any burn when doing regular crunches. I'm pretty sure I'm performing them properly, but it seems like I can do them forever and not feel like I'm accomplishing much.
But if I do "bicycle" crunches, I tire out and feel the burn.
Do what works and mix it up so you don't get bored. I do bicycles, foot circles, flutter kicks, and scissor kicks (just like they sound - lie down with your hands under your butt and kick and move your feet). If you have a punching bag, wrap your legs tightly around it and jab/cross every time you do a sit-up. Go into pushup possition, but on your forearms instead - hold that possition for 1 minute. When this gets too easy, raise one foot. If you have a decline bench, do weighted crunches with that. Think of yourown.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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dirtysanchez

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Working the abs 2-3 times per week is optimal for most people.

Generally, I find it to be a good idea to alternate between high rep, low resistance abdominal work (like abdominal circuits) and low rep, heavy weight abdominal work (i.e. weighted crunches, standing/seated cable crunches etc.), with your workouts...
 

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Originally posted by dirtysanchez
Working the abs 2-3 times per week is optimal for most people.

Generally, I find it to be a good idea to alternate between high rep, low resistance abdominal work (like abdominal circuits) and low rep, heavy weight abdominal work (i.e. weighted crunches, standing/seated cable crunches etc.), with your workouts...
yeah.
Also dont neglect the serratus and lower back.
 

The_Lifter

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I've never worked my abs directly and they've come along fine. Given that they don't encompass much potential for hypertrophy there is little point in doing a **** load of direct work as they get worked as stabilisers in, for example, squats, deads...even pushdowns.
 
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