You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
You're BOTH playing games.SHE just called me from work and wants to hang out sometime this week. I told her I'd have to check my schedule first.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Dude.....you ARE making excuses. Hanging out with a chick that sincerely likes you is NEVER this hard.onemorerobot said:Ok, well now I am really confused. She just called me from school. It was like nothing had even happened. She didn't even mention us hanging out today. I think maybe she misunderstood me yesterday, thought I was busy today. She asked me what I did today. She told me we definitely need to get together again. I'm not really sure. This girl told me on our first "date" that she has ADD. I'm not trying to make excuses for the girl. I honestly don't know what to think right now. She had to go, but asked me if she could call me back.
Does that actually attract guys more?WhitePimp said:Dude...are you enjoying this? If not, then just choose not to play games anymore. If you just want to hang with a girl and have fun, then find a girl who wants to do that and doesnt need to play this bull**** to try and get guys attracted to her.