"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Aagh fight the AFCness!

Leporello

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Over a year ago I posted about a FB of mine who'd started a huge screaming fight with me because I disagreed with her political beliefs. The problem seemed to resolve itself, but now I let slip another 'offenseive' remark and agains she's declared that we're through. She also sent me an e-mail telling me what an awful perosn i am.

First of all, that's obviously way too serious a reaction from the FWB. Second, if she can't respect that other people have different opinions (and yeah I kind of fudged on the issue, but if you knew how irrational she was about it you'd have done the same) then that's her problem.

The trouble is, crazy as it sounds, i am going to miss her alot. I haven't called her and I haven't responded to her e-mail. I'm going to wait it out. If she decided to be a mature person I'm willing to talk to her.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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If she's a liberal then I'm siding with you. If you're a liberal then you're in the wrong.
 

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Max Power said:
If she's a liberal then I'm siding with you. If you're a liberal then you're in the wrong.
Thanks that was helpful.
 

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Luke!! said:
If you want to win, argue through actions not words. Words won't work. If shes set on her belief it's going to be hard to sway that. So what you need to do is take action and let her see why you believe what you do. It's all about understanding. As long as she gets where your coming from a tiny bit, there should be some sort of understanding.
I don't see it happening. This isn't the first time she's done this; trying to discuss the issue is a rational way gets me nowhere.
 
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