"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Aagh fight the AFCness!

Leporello

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Over a year ago I posted about a FB of mine who'd started a huge screaming fight with me because I disagreed with her political beliefs. The problem seemed to resolve itself, but now I let slip another 'offenseive' remark and agains she's declared that we're through. She also sent me an e-mail telling me what an awful perosn i am.

First of all, that's obviously way too serious a reaction from the FWB. Second, if she can't respect that other people have different opinions (and yeah I kind of fudged on the issue, but if you knew how irrational she was about it you'd have done the same) then that's her problem.

The trouble is, crazy as it sounds, i am going to miss her alot. I haven't called her and I haven't responded to her e-mail. I'm going to wait it out. If she decided to be a mature person I'm willing to talk to her.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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If she's a liberal then I'm siding with you. If you're a liberal then you're in the wrong.
 

Leporello

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Max Power said:
If she's a liberal then I'm siding with you. If you're a liberal then you're in the wrong.
Thanks that was helpful.
 

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Luke!! said:
If you want to win, argue through actions not words. Words won't work. If shes set on her belief it's going to be hard to sway that. So what you need to do is take action and let her see why you believe what you do. It's all about understanding. As long as she gets where your coming from a tiny bit, there should be some sort of understanding.
I don't see it happening. This isn't the first time she's done this; trying to discuss the issue is a rational way gets me nowhere.
 
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