"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Aagh fight the AFCness!

Leporello

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Over a year ago I posted about a FB of mine who'd started a huge screaming fight with me because I disagreed with her political beliefs. The problem seemed to resolve itself, but now I let slip another 'offenseive' remark and agains she's declared that we're through. She also sent me an e-mail telling me what an awful perosn i am.

First of all, that's obviously way too serious a reaction from the FWB. Second, if she can't respect that other people have different opinions (and yeah I kind of fudged on the issue, but if you knew how irrational she was about it you'd have done the same) then that's her problem.

The trouble is, crazy as it sounds, i am going to miss her alot. I haven't called her and I haven't responded to her e-mail. I'm going to wait it out. If she decided to be a mature person I'm willing to talk to her.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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If she's a liberal then I'm siding with you. If you're a liberal then you're in the wrong.
 

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Max Power said:
If she's a liberal then I'm siding with you. If you're a liberal then you're in the wrong.
Thanks that was helpful.
 

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Luke!! said:
If you want to win, argue through actions not words. Words won't work. If shes set on her belief it's going to be hard to sway that. So what you need to do is take action and let her see why you believe what you do. It's all about understanding. As long as she gets where your coming from a tiny bit, there should be some sort of understanding.
I don't see it happening. This isn't the first time she's done this; trying to discuss the issue is a rational way gets me nowhere.
 
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