"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Fuglydude
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How have you been!
MMA is going well. I'm only a month into it. The gym i go to focuses on Muay Thai, Wrestling, and BJJ. There is also a class that incorporates all 3 into the class and we don't have sparring until we've reached the 201 level. I've only had time to take muay thai, and MMA. i will be going to my first BJJ class Friday and will aim to go to one of each a week. Classes are pretty hard intensity wise but i'm in good enough shape to make it through (lifting before class definitely doesn't help but i gotta get it in because i have a tight schedule).
Today - back, shoulders and Biceps
pullups bw+30lbsx5 + 1 rep at bw, 3 sets
barbell back rows 95lbsx10, 3 sets
deadlifts 95lbsx10, 2 sets (back was injured so i started light)
hammer dumbbell curls 50lbsx3, 47.5lbsx3, 45lbsx3, 42.5lbsx3, 40lbsx4, 35lbsx6
Shrugs 70lbsx6, 50lbsx10 (i ran out of time and my forearms were pretty done)
On a bad note, i was playing basketball 2 weeks ago and so one fvcked up my knee pretty had and i've been limping and having horrible issues with my knee since the 2 weeks. I may need surgery. My company was also just bought by a private equity firm so our benefits are all changing and i need to hold off on seeing a doctor until i get my new benefits info.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I'm around the NYC area and i work in manhattan. I'm looking for a chain gym so i can go to multiple locations if i move into the city. I just got a new job so it looks like i might be moving into the city soon. My old gym with our corporate discount was $65 a month. It was NYHRC. NYSC which is a step down from NYHRC was charging $75 with initiation fee's mainly because we had a better discount at NYHRC. Hopefully this company will have corporate gym discounts otherwise i might just sign up for a NYHRC.Espi said:
Crunch is about the same as NYHRC and bally's in the city is just a sh1t hole. We don't have any LA Fitness's over here but even back home, that gym is getting overcrowded and dirty. Might just be me getting used to the New York life.
Ran my first mile for time in a long time for about 6:43. Ran my next mile for time a few days later for 6:21. Not bad but not great as i've been low 5 minutes before but then again, my body doesn't feel tip top shape. Got a big gut that i can never seem to get rid of.
Ronaldo7
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You can also try doing dips. They are a great exercise for chest/triceps.
If you are consistently running and exercising, you might have to evaluate your diet. There should be no reason for you to have a gut, if you are consistently doing those things.
It's definitely the diet as i've said many times. My job involves entertaining a lot of clients so i drink a lot for that and my co workers also drink a lot. I compensate to stay relatively in shape (besides my gut) by working my a$$ off.
$65 was corporate discount. I think general membership is $105 a month for that gym and i was going to equinox which i had my friends employee discount for $90 a month when general membership is around $175 for single club access.
Not sure where you're at paying $65…..sounds like you're over-paying.
Ronaldo7
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Laying off the alcohol will definitely help you tremendously. I don't think you necessarily have to drink to entertain a client when you go out. Stating your intention to better yourself (In this case it would be your physical condition) is always commendable.AAAgent said:
The gym i go to is in a very exclusive part of the city. It is also very clean and has the ideal atmosphere i want. Most people that go there do it for the social connotation. It gives me basically a free gym to workout and not have to wait for people and other annoying hassles. I can always finish in under an hour. There are other gyms that have waiting lines to use equipment.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
My body just doesn't recover as well as it used to and my knees also feel very weak. I do rest my legs every other day so not sure why this is the case. Ran another 1 mile and clocked in at 6:39…..very frustrating.
As for track, I don't really have any tracks close by so i do quarter mile sprints and then jog 1/8 a mile and then do another quarter mile sprint and jog 1/8 mile until i finish 4 quarter mile sprints.
One crappy thing is since i moved back home to work on my startup after a full 2 weeks of working out, i get dragged into NYC and spending like 4-6 days with the GF and have no time to work out which brings me back to square one.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
I've also been doing a lot of pushups and pull-ups as i don't have access to a gym. i do about 125 pushups a day about once a week and about 80 pull-ups a day once a week.
Ronaldo7
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Hey AAA,AAAgent said:
You can do pushups every other day. Do you do pushups for chest or for arms? Break them up between 15-20 and do various sets. I guarantee you that you will see drastic improvements. Same with pull-ups. You could also incorporate dips as well. Good work.
@ronaldo
I do break my push ups and pull ups into 15-20 over sets. My shoulder injury can't handle constant pressure and that's why i don't do pushups all the time.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.