"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Fuglydude
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How have you been!
MMA is going well. I'm only a month into it. The gym i go to focuses on Muay Thai, Wrestling, and BJJ. There is also a class that incorporates all 3 into the class and we don't have sparring until we've reached the 201 level. I've only had time to take muay thai, and MMA. i will be going to my first BJJ class Friday and will aim to go to one of each a week. Classes are pretty hard intensity wise but i'm in good enough shape to make it through (lifting before class definitely doesn't help but i gotta get it in because i have a tight schedule).
Today - back, shoulders and Biceps
pullups bw+30lbsx5 + 1 rep at bw, 3 sets
barbell back rows 95lbsx10, 3 sets
deadlifts 95lbsx10, 2 sets (back was injured so i started light)
hammer dumbbell curls 50lbsx3, 47.5lbsx3, 45lbsx3, 42.5lbsx3, 40lbsx4, 35lbsx6
Shrugs 70lbsx6, 50lbsx10 (i ran out of time and my forearms were pretty done)
On a bad note, i was playing basketball 2 weeks ago and so one fvcked up my knee pretty had and i've been limping and having horrible issues with my knee since the 2 weeks. I may need surgery. My company was also just bought by a private equity firm so our benefits are all changing and i need to hold off on seeing a doctor until i get my new benefits info.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I'm around the NYC area and i work in manhattan. I'm looking for a chain gym so i can go to multiple locations if i move into the city. I just got a new job so it looks like i might be moving into the city soon. My old gym with our corporate discount was $65 a month. It was NYHRC. NYSC which is a step down from NYHRC was charging $75 with initiation fee's mainly because we had a better discount at NYHRC. Hopefully this company will have corporate gym discounts otherwise i might just sign up for a NYHRC.Espi said:
Crunch is about the same as NYHRC and bally's in the city is just a sh1t hole. We don't have any LA Fitness's over here but even back home, that gym is getting overcrowded and dirty. Might just be me getting used to the New York life.
Ran my first mile for time in a long time for about 6:43. Ran my next mile for time a few days later for 6:21. Not bad but not great as i've been low 5 minutes before but then again, my body doesn't feel tip top shape. Got a big gut that i can never seem to get rid of.
Ronaldo7
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You can also try doing dips. They are a great exercise for chest/triceps.
If you are consistently running and exercising, you might have to evaluate your diet. There should be no reason for you to have a gut, if you are consistently doing those things.
It's definitely the diet as i've said many times. My job involves entertaining a lot of clients so i drink a lot for that and my co workers also drink a lot. I compensate to stay relatively in shape (besides my gut) by working my a$$ off.
$65 was corporate discount. I think general membership is $105 a month for that gym and i was going to equinox which i had my friends employee discount for $90 a month when general membership is around $175 for single club access.
Not sure where you're at paying $65…..sounds like you're over-paying.
Ronaldo7
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Laying off the alcohol will definitely help you tremendously. I don't think you necessarily have to drink to entertain a client when you go out. Stating your intention to better yourself (In this case it would be your physical condition) is always commendable.AAAgent said:
The gym i go to is in a very exclusive part of the city. It is also very clean and has the ideal atmosphere i want. Most people that go there do it for the social connotation. It gives me basically a free gym to workout and not have to wait for people and other annoying hassles. I can always finish in under an hour. There are other gyms that have waiting lines to use equipment.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
My body just doesn't recover as well as it used to and my knees also feel very weak. I do rest my legs every other day so not sure why this is the case. Ran another 1 mile and clocked in at 6:39…..very frustrating.
As for track, I don't really have any tracks close by so i do quarter mile sprints and then jog 1/8 a mile and then do another quarter mile sprint and jog 1/8 mile until i finish 4 quarter mile sprints.
One crappy thing is since i moved back home to work on my startup after a full 2 weeks of working out, i get dragged into NYC and spending like 4-6 days with the GF and have no time to work out which brings me back to square one.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I've also been doing a lot of pushups and pull-ups as i don't have access to a gym. i do about 125 pushups a day about once a week and about 80 pull-ups a day once a week.
Ronaldo7
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Hey AAA,AAAgent said:
You can do pushups every other day. Do you do pushups for chest or for arms? Break them up between 15-20 and do various sets. I guarantee you that you will see drastic improvements. Same with pull-ups. You could also incorporate dips as well. Good work.
@ronaldo
I do break my push ups and pull ups into 15-20 over sets. My shoulder injury can't handle constant pressure and that's why i don't do pushups all the time.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.