"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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aaaah damn it

Moneytalks

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I've known a girl, we'll call her Toni because that's her name, for 2 years. I hadn't seen her for about a year until Tuesday but we'd spoken a few times a week, most weeks and everyday other weeks (if only briefly) on the phone, MSN or by text message. Most of it's just the kind of inane chitter chatter friends do with the odd bit of flirting thrown in. We've spoken about visiting each other before but thought it better not to. This time I thought "**** it. I'm closer now so I may as well".

I've had feelings for her for just over a year, and I know she had feeling for me at the same time but she'd moved away by the time she told me.

I went to see her on Tuesday, got there at 11:30pm and by 1:30am (after sitting in her kitchen and nearly fighting with one of her flatmates) we were naked in her bed. By 2:30am, she wanted me to take her virginity. So, I pop it in and it wouldn't fit. Tried all my techniques and it hurt her too much. So we stayed up until about 4 just doing oral sex, having a shower and the like. Then we fell asleep cuddling.

Tuesday morning we woke up and kissed a bit, then just lay in her bed for a few hours, just hugging and talking (sounds gay, but I don't care. It was nice).

Since then I've told her I'd like to go and see her again before I go to basic in 3 weeks and I've suggested I go down in March. She said "can you afford it?" and I said I could (I can) and she said "awesome. Goodnight xxx" and left. Though to be fair, she was leaving anyway and I just wanted to get her opinion quickly. I've told her I like her and have done for a little while.

Things aren't awkward in the slightest (as far as I can see), I just don't know if she's keen to see me again.

Things she said whilst I was there:
"I can't believe you came here just for me"
"I can't believe you're running off to join the navy :( "
"I love your legs" ( :up: )
"I don't want you to leave yet"
Me: "For the next 3 hours, I'm claiming you as my territory"
Her: "Good :)"

I think she has a problem with the idea of getting close to someone then them leaving her-the guy she liked at uni is a Royal Navy officer on something called a cadetship, meaning he's done training and is now getting paid to do a degree before joining the fleet; he's now had to change universities because the Royal Navy told him he had to for his cadetship.

Should I just wait a couple of days before trying to strike up conversation with her again? I'm worried about coming across as needy when really I just like her a lot. :down:

Any other ideas?

Funny story: Walk of shame the next morning. Went into the kitchen in my boxers and said "good morning". Got a funny look and her female flatmate said "you're Toni's...friend".
'er, yeah' I replied.

Turns out her flatmate was having a Student's Church union meeting
:crackup:
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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After sex, call back. You don't need to worry about playing hard to get,it's more to reassure her that this is a relationship. NOw DON"T call every 10 minutes or otherwise blow up her phone. BUT every 2 or 3 days call. IF you are looking for a relationship with 1 girl. If spinning plates, call once a week or less.
It's not all about playing the game,Mystery has serious mental issues-he can screw them,but he can't keep them. So if you follow his advice,you'll get what he has out of life,
 

Moneytalks

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Yes, yes, YES! I'm going to see her a few days before I start basic training :D
 

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Moneytalks said:
Yes, yes, YES! I'm going to see her a few days before I start basic training :D

One-itis is coming and it won't be pretty....




PIMP
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Moneytalks

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At this stage I want 1 girl. I'm leaving for 14 weeks of training after I see her, so there will possibly be pieces to be picked up, but I'm afraid I probably won't be coming here :p
 

Moneytalks

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How is this suicide?

I don't want to shag around at the time being so I'm daft?
 
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