Victory Unlimited
Master Don Juan
Great post, LOVELYLADY!
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
jonwon said:An email i got from a girl i am in contact with:
*start
"This is me being very honest and what I look for in a man:-
1. I need the initial attraction (shallow I know but hey it’s my list)
2. Taller than me and not too skinny
3. I like a good conversation and someone that doesn’t talk to my chest is a bonus
4. Sex appeal is very important.. I want to look at him and want him in bed just by looking at him
5. I want him to make me feel like I’m the most important person in the world when with him
6. Someone that cares how I feel and is respectful.. I always think of the person I’m with and I expect the same
7. A man that knows what he wants and has his own life/friends.. Its important to have this I think as I have a full life
8. Great in bed and a real man (This had to feature in my list) lol
*end
You asked her about to articulate, openly " what she looks for in a man".
Do we take it to mean that she is looking for a FB or a man with whom she can have a relationship ?
Let us assume a FB is what she wants. Then #s 2,3,3 6 and 7 are mostly irrelevant.
Alternatively,she may be looking for an LTR with a guy,so where are her requirements for that ? What about 'honesty, involvement, loyalty and good decision making ?
On the surface she appears to be 'clear' about that she wants. However ,we all know two things about women. What they SAY is not usually what they really mean,therefor how much value do we place on her words in that list.
SEcondly, even their most forthright statements still require translation - code breaking...!!!
Look at #6. " Someone who cares about how I feel ......"
Who really knows what women means when they go on about respect ..They place no emotional value on respect as we know it .MOstly they mean that we men should tolerate (without protest) their emotional swirling and swaying and their irrationality and their whining and complaining.... " he should care about how I FEEL ..."
Who knows -who really knows ??
Is this a sexual innuendo?penkitten said:what penkitten wants in her husband:
1. give me the fluffy pillow at night.
the end
Last Man Standing said:Is this a sexual innuendo?![]()
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
cpddavis said:Regarding #2 - All women want a man taller than themselves, but they are committed to the height thing to varying degrees. That said, in a bar pick-up scene, a tall ugly guy with limited game will usually do better than a shorter attractive guy with social skills. It's weird - in the long term that guy doesn't do as well but in a short term situation he's hooking up. Height is a bigger deal to women than looks initially.
I'm a shorter guy (5'8) and this is something I've observed, I don't mope about it and still do fine, but there is definately a significant portion of women who are really adamant about it and not just taller girls - there are girls that are 5'3 that will only date 6' and over. Not the biggest deal in the world but it's a noticable factor. Seriously, how many ass ugly tall dudes have you seen with trim that should be out of their league. If you have game it evens out a bit after a while (assuming you're good looking) but it can be a big hurdle, especially in a competitive environment.
Ahrrr ! a minimalist - how unusual in a femme. MY kind of dame.penkitten said:what penkitten wants in her husband:
1. give me the fluffy pillow at night.
the end
no, it is just the best pillow in the house....Last Man Standing said:Is this a sexual innuendo?![]()
um, never heard that one before.ThunderMaverick said:Well it's THE new and best sexual act these days, haven't you heard?
I talked to a girl the other day about doing the "fluffy pillow" to her and she had to leave immediately to change her shoes and socks.
Seconded.Honestly, I think this list is the most genuine I've ever seen.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.