A update to my last post (5 dates in been at her house till 2am but only smooched on the sofa)

[Jamie12345]

As a update to this thread,

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/thread...-smooched-on-the-sofa-how-to-escalate.246104/

I last saw this woman on sunday evening and made plans to meet with her last night, monday morning i got a txt from her saying it feels like you want more from me and want to stay over but im not ready for that. i txted her back saying if i stayed over i wouldnt expect sex. she replied saying if you stayed over what would you expect the spare sofa or my bed. I replied what do you think she replied id like to think youd share my bed with me then i put good guess! then went back to normal convo.

During the week i suggested we meet up last night for a meal out a film and then "snuggles" she replied sounds good to me. So im thinking maybe i actually am going to bed with her.

Anyway last night we went out for a meal, she paid for everything i offered half she said no i didnt make a big deal out of it and accepted it. we get back to hers sit on the sofa watch a episode of black mirror then she grabs my hand and puts to the top of her jeans playing with my hand like women do. Then she says are we watching one more or are you going home?

I was like wtf! but didnt show it, but i did presume i was staying seen as she didnt say no it. anyway we start smooching on the sofa then i say how about snuggles she looks at me. Then i grab her by the hand without no discussion and lead her upstairs to her bedroom. Her bedroom was untidy so obviously she didnt expect me to stay prior to that.

Anyway so were smooching im undressing her we end up having sex etc for at least 90 minutes. In bed shes a totally different animal totally wild and opposite to her normal. I have scratches and bite marks all over my body to prove it!

After we had sex we sat up together cuddled and kissed etc then i said something like are we getting in bed, (we didnt even make it into the bed before) and she said the its way past your bedtime routine, i said am i not staying she said well you have work tomorrow and have to be up early i dont mind you going bla bla bla i didnt fight it anymore and be beta i just accepted it but i was like WTF! we just had sex and u dont want me to stay but didnt let her know that. we got dressed and i left this was at 1 am. I got home 30 mins away to a txt from her saying.

Night, thankyou for a good evening, hope you enjoyed it as much as i did.

I tease her saying did you couldnt tell haha

She read the message then didnt reply so presume she went to sleep.

Really dont know what to make about it all!!!? I actually do want a relationship at my age

 

[TheGambino]

Don't get caught up in the sh1t women do... They always be testing the waters to see if they can f8ck with your mindset and make you a desperate wimp.

Just go on with your life and wait until she reaches out then you go over, have fun and hook up again and repeat.

Ignore all the sh1t she throws like not replying back, getting emotional and all that sh1t males should take with a grain of salt.

 

[Jamie12345]

it does feel pretty **** every time she " sends me home" i was pretty confused by this when she said it last night, i have no idea why.

When we was chatting after i said to her i cant tell what your thinking or read you, she just smiles! she stays stuff like i had a good time and i enjoyed the night.

Its not even the fact that i didnt stay over its the fact that its strange that i didnt after the first time we had sex. like is she playing games or does she not want me to see her without makeup on or what? or is she just **** testing me!

 

[Murk]

Bro you banged her, congrats.

Me personally would have put up resistance about leaving at 1am after sex, just lay on her bed and tell her to come lay down, it's not beta imo, if it's late and I'm tired I'll angle to stay and I've never been turfed out and stupid o'clock, isn't it more alpha to be direct and tell her you're tired and is there a reason why you want me to leave now?

 

[ohrein]

Just keep escalating, easy stuff! Seems like she does not want a relationship though. Keep fvcking her properly though and try and hint you've got options and she'll she might try to lock you down. Sounds like she is probably best left in the FWB section though since there are some girls like that who are too damaged to be in LTR's. Keep us up to date though!

 

[Roober]

Good job on the lay!

Just keep on spinning.. and stay away from ALL relationship talk, unless she initiates it!

 

[marmel75]

Dont stay at women's houses until they are your girlfriend...it gives them the wrong idea.

See what happens when you act like a man and lead?

 

[Vantagepoint34]

Congratulations on the conquest. You will know when it's time or if she is a keeper.

 

[Jamie12345]

i dont really know where to go from here?

before we had sex she really was prepared to send me home again!?

I also feel like i get nothing from her? its always me that arranges to see each other again etc

she never even tell me how she feels or encourages any progress between us all.

I called her out on why i didnt stay she said i did want you to stay but you had work the next day so it was sensible for you to stay at home? i just put oh ok work doesnt really bother me and made a joke saying she just wanted a lie in.

ive asked her what her plans were this weekend she said im working later than normal saturday night (which she is) but we always have met on a Saturday after her work. but from that im taking she doesnt want too. Then she said no plans sunday and went on with what she was doing today.

Dont know where to go or what to say if im doing right or wrong

Please help guys or point me in the right direction!

 

[marmel75]

i dont really know where to go from here?

before we had sex she really was prepared to send me home again!?

I also feel like i get nothing from her? its always me that arranges to see each other again etc

she never even tell me how she feels or encourages any progress between us all.

I called her out on why i didnt stay she said i did want you to stay but you had work the next day so it was sensible for you to stay at home? i just put oh ok work doesnt really bother me and made a joke saying she just wanted a lie in.

ive asked her what her plans were this weekend she said im working later than normal saturday night (which she is) but we always have met on a Saturday after her work. but from that im taking she doesnt want too. Then she said no plans sunday and went on with what she was doing today.

Dont know where to go or what to say if im doing right or wrong

Please help guys or point me in the right direction!

You are acting desperate and needy and likely will be turning her off within a week or two if you haven't started to already.

Maybe its not progressing because you are acting like a woman and not a man she wants? No woman wants to be with a guy who has no options and immediately places her at the top of his list above everything else. And yet that is exactly what you have done reading into your posts.

The calling out part was pathetic.

The advice is to date other women and stop acting like a love sick puppy dog anytime a woman has sex with you.