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Master Don Juan
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I have seen mentioned many times on PUA books or blogs that the average man is afraid of approaching women (AA or Approach Anxiety).
This ISN'T true at all.
They also say to remedy your AA you must approach, approach, approach...i.e. maybe even hundreds of women.
Of course increasing your social interaction with women will help but because the first point isn't true this remedy is inefficient.
The REAL truth is that the average man is afraid of REJECTION not approaching.
Some might say, what is the difference? However, there is a MASSIVE difference!
Accurate diagnosis is half the cure.
To prove this, imagine if you could guarantee successfully getting a number or meeting up with a woman you approached. Would you then be afraid of approaching? No of course you wouldn't.
Anyway, as an exercise, INSTEAD of approaching 100 women. Approach less, but approach women with the intention of getting rejected.
Yes, DELIBERATELY get rejected by women.
And the best way to do this is by offending them. Deliberately OFFEND women by being rude with the result of getting rejected.
What is going on here? What you're doing is you're detaching yourself from the desired result...
You will also be pleasantly surprised. Some women will NOT be offended!
The problem with many men, is we are afraid to offend people (especially if they are strangers). If on a scale of 1 to 10, 1 being extremely cautious/polite, 10 being extremely rude/careless, you will find most men on 2 or 3 on the scale. This is especially the case we when are communicating with ATTRACTIVE women.
In reality, you are ten times more likely to successful being 8 or 9 on the scale than you are being 2 or 3.
The whole point isn't to be rude with women...it's to create the mindset to stop trying to be polite. Because being polite leads to attempting to impress them and subsequently, being attached to the desired result.
This ISN'T true at all.
They also say to remedy your AA you must approach, approach, approach...i.e. maybe even hundreds of women.
Of course increasing your social interaction with women will help but because the first point isn't true this remedy is inefficient.
The REAL truth is that the average man is afraid of REJECTION not approaching.
Some might say, what is the difference? However, there is a MASSIVE difference!
Accurate diagnosis is half the cure.
To prove this, imagine if you could guarantee successfully getting a number or meeting up with a woman you approached. Would you then be afraid of approaching? No of course you wouldn't.
Anyway, as an exercise, INSTEAD of approaching 100 women. Approach less, but approach women with the intention of getting rejected.
Yes, DELIBERATELY get rejected by women.
And the best way to do this is by offending them. Deliberately OFFEND women by being rude with the result of getting rejected.
What is going on here? What you're doing is you're detaching yourself from the desired result...
You will also be pleasantly surprised. Some women will NOT be offended!
The problem with many men, is we are afraid to offend people (especially if they are strangers). If on a scale of 1 to 10, 1 being extremely cautious/polite, 10 being extremely rude/careless, you will find most men on 2 or 3 on the scale. This is especially the case we when are communicating with ATTRACTIVE women.
In reality, you are ten times more likely to successful being 8 or 9 on the scale than you are being 2 or 3.
The whole point isn't to be rude with women...it's to create the mindset to stop trying to be polite. Because being polite leads to attempting to impress them and subsequently, being attached to the desired result.
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