"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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A timid WINGMAN can ruin your night out

rakishness

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RUN far away from the timid wingman. If the guys you're going out with are scared to approach....it's gonna hurt ur game. Emotions are infectious. If your wing/wings feel FEAR....so will you.

TIMID WINGS-->NO PHONE NUMBERS-->NO ONS'S-->WASTED NIGHT--> WASTED MONEY
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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r0cky

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Everybody starts somewhere, he probably thinks YOU are the bad wing for not helping him be more involved in the convo. And if anything, a timid wing shouldn't ruin your game because you have the strong frame, plus you have the option of not introducing him to the set. If im stuck with a bad wing I just dont introduce him to the set, or if i do, he wont talk so how is that going to hurt me?. The only bad wing is the socially inept who embarasses you.
 

rakishness

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Noob said:
gotta agree, but you could always force him to approach, ask him if you can borrow 10 bucks, and say im only gonna give you this back if you approach - or else im keepin it.

i agree with you, a good wingman can be the difference between getting laid, and not getting laid..

but you gotta remember that people go out sarging alone all the time, so a wingman isnt EVERYTHING..
Yeah. I think the most important thing is to approach anyway. Or find better wings. I almost never go out alone for night game but sarge alone for day game.
 

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I couldn't agree more on this... a few of the friends i go out with are quite timid, and trying to use them as wingmen just doesn't go over well and has ruined my night in the past.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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ready123

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you shouldn't be drawing state from your wing anyway

and if you're blaming and sht-talking your wing for keeping you from pulling, he's probably saying the same things about you, blaming you for ruining his night
 
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