"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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A thought on ambiguity.

Flabbergasped?

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One of the faults human beings possess is that they can't read each other's minds. Most other animals have sensory systems that pretty much telegraph anything and everything they are thinking. When a bear is in heat, any bear within a pretty wide radar will know. When a dolphin wants to go up for air, the echolocation signals it gives makes every other dolphin know that that bad boy is going up for air. With humans, it's not the same. Our brains are amazingly complex, and our actions are the same way. The same movement can mean five different things, and it's sometimes hard to figure it out. Here's a little thought to help sort things out for you guys.

-Interpret actions the way an outsider would.

A lot of guys rush into things because they are too involved in the girl's motion/body language. Take this example. John is sitting next to Sally, and Sally moves in her seat so that she is a few millimeters closer to John. John thinks she wants to cuddle against him, so he gets near her and wraps his arms around her, only to get rejected. To an outsider, her action would seem like an uncomfortable person finding a more comfortable position. Unless you know more, don't rush in.

-Don't sweat the small things

Almost all minor actions are just that: minor. If you want to be well-understood in a debate, you don't mumble; you speak fully and clearly. Human bodies work the same way. Minor, seemingly unnoticeable actions should not be analyzed, because they are just that, and if anything, they show that the girl is indecisive (like all humans),
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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since theres not much to add, i'm going to congratulate you on a good post!

- useless post +1 w00t
 

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