Flabbergasped?
Master Don Juan
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One of the faults human beings possess is that they can't read each other's minds. Most other animals have sensory systems that pretty much telegraph anything and everything they are thinking. When a bear is in heat, any bear within a pretty wide radar will know. When a dolphin wants to go up for air, the echolocation signals it gives makes every other dolphin know that that bad boy is going up for air. With humans, it's not the same. Our brains are amazingly complex, and our actions are the same way. The same movement can mean five different things, and it's sometimes hard to figure it out. Here's a little thought to help sort things out for you guys.
-Interpret actions the way an outsider would.
A lot of guys rush into things because they are too involved in the girl's motion/body language. Take this example. John is sitting next to Sally, and Sally moves in her seat so that she is a few millimeters closer to John. John thinks she wants to cuddle against him, so he gets near her and wraps his arms around her, only to get rejected. To an outsider, her action would seem like an uncomfortable person finding a more comfortable position. Unless you know more, don't rush in.
-Don't sweat the small things
Almost all minor actions are just that: minor. If you want to be well-understood in a debate, you don't mumble; you speak fully and clearly. Human bodies work the same way. Minor, seemingly unnoticeable actions should not be analyzed, because they are just that, and if anything, they show that the girl is indecisive (like all humans),
-Interpret actions the way an outsider would.
A lot of guys rush into things because they are too involved in the girl's motion/body language. Take this example. John is sitting next to Sally, and Sally moves in her seat so that she is a few millimeters closer to John. John thinks she wants to cuddle against him, so he gets near her and wraps his arms around her, only to get rejected. To an outsider, her action would seem like an uncomfortable person finding a more comfortable position. Unless you know more, don't rush in.
-Don't sweat the small things
Almost all minor actions are just that: minor. If you want to be well-understood in a debate, you don't mumble; you speak fully and clearly. Human bodies work the same way. Minor, seemingly unnoticeable actions should not be analyzed, because they are just that, and if anything, they show that the girl is indecisive (like all humans),