Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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A theory about porn

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What do you guys think about this theory?

I have decided that I think porn in moderation is good. To much porn distracts you from real women. I quit porn cold turkey for about 2 months. I believe that no porn at all made my AFC tendencies worse. I didn't have an outlet for my "sexual energy." So, I focused it on girls that I missed chances with or girls that I never could get up the nerve to ask out. I now look up porn a couple of times a week (I consider this "in moderation"). I think its a good balance of getting rid of my sexual energy (so I'm not constantly getting mad at myself for being such an AFC) without being excessive about porn.

any thoughts/comments about my theory?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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you're probably right i know i had more girlfriends earlier in life when i didn't watch porn and i was a little more sexual believe it or not but then i started watching and girls don't make me horny anymore unless they touch me
 
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If you see girls in porn that look really good then I think you start to get conditioned to being aroused by girls of that quality. Then when you see the real life girls they don't seem as great anymore. Something along those lines.
 
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I "sort myself out" every night and also some mornings.....unless im with lady company. WHat i do is sometimes use porn.....sometimes dont.

This way I can use my own imagination and keep up my own creative vision and thoughts and also apply some mental control. I then also use porn as a visual aspect like any male.

I think its important to vary between the 2.
 
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I love porn but I agree it IS bad for you. For the reasons above but also: It not only realeases you sexual frustration therefore making you less likely to be arsed going after women but it also makes you see them as objects. To get real girls you need to be funny witty (you know) but I think porn conditions us not to think this way, we expect them to bang us there and then pretty much. When they don't, when we realise they aren't objects but people, we get scared and nervous. We become an AFC.

Most of the real players I know DON'T watch porn.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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d9930380 said:
Most of the real players I know DON'T watch porn.
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That's because most of them don't need it. Let them go days, weeks, months without sex and I'm sure they'll be singing a different tune. Haha.
 
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