"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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In the middle of June I came here asking for advice on a girl that I was (still am) trying to get with. I came here with nice guy and AFC tendencies which if left unchecked would have ****ed up my chances even more.

This website has changed my outlook on girls/life for the good, This website has given me a sense of guidance on my life. Instead of giving me advice on how I should act this website has taught me how to think for myself.

I feel as if i have literally been given a second chance to get things right, It's going to be a long bumpy road until I reach some of the goals that I've recently set myself too achieve but i can see light at the end of the road.

Just had to get that off of my chest, theirs so much to learn from this site.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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all this in a month?
 
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^ there's still a lot of work to be done, this site has given me a huge list of stuff to improve on. I feel better because I'm actually keeping myself occupied with stuff to do throughout my days instead of harping on the past and dwelling on my emotions.

Some of the articles on this site really hit me hard at first and made me realize some of my past errors. Ever since i started reading this site I've had an urge to improve myself even more.

Devilkingx2 I don't think you understand how much information I've been feeding myself from this site and trying to apply too my everyday life. I have lots of stuff i need to figure out/get done with my life but the motivational stuff has DEFINITELY taken me out of the slump I've been in.
 
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devilkingx2 said:
all this in a month?
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You'd be surprised what can be accomplished in a month with the right mindset. Even if this isn't his "final" transformation, progress is still progress.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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ok then guys, makes sense,

good job OP, I hope you become an even greater DJ one day.
 
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