"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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A tale of three philosophies

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Two philosophies going toe to toe in my head. Both are equally rational, level headed, convincing, and sportsmanlike. A third philosophy listens impartially. He makes comments and points out strengths and weaknesses of each side, but remains biased.

The first two reach an impasse. Neither has disproven the other one. Meekly, they ask the third to settle the matter.

Third philosophy shrugs and says, "Do what thou wilt."

In the real world, first two may continue with their beliefs and simply ignore each other. But this is within my singular mind. The conflict creates hesitation, insecurity, and cognitive dissonance. It's inhibiting my ability to function.

I need a resolution.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Am I missing something or did you not list the first two philosophies? What are they?

The third, "Do as you wilt", was the philosophy of Alistair Crowley.
 

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Are you saying that you're trying to pick a side - a philosophy?

If so, why? Why can't you just take the 'strengths' from each, and leave the 'weakensses'. Why does it have to be one or the other?

but remains biased
did you mean un-biased here?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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WanderingMan said:
Are you saying that you're trying to pick a side - a philosophy?

If so, why? Why can't you just take the 'strengths' from each, and leave the 'weakensses'. Why does it have to be one or the other?


did you mean un-biased here?
Yes, I meant unbiased.

Here's the dilemma. I have the desire to have women in my life. Ideally I would consider myself a humanist. As a Thelemite I theoretically value humans as divine beings. And I regard life as something to be celebrated. "Take your fill and Will of love."

The flip side is that in all my recent interactions with females, I find them obnoxious, manipulative, and unintelligent, resulting in a decline in my attraction to them. This is when I lean towards MGTOW. I admit, after being screwed over in divorce, I am somewhat paranoid towards women as well.

So in a broad sense, I want to learn game and be successful with women. But it's difficult because each and every individual interaction has been a negative one.
 
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