"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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A tale of three philosophies

Devintems

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Two philosophies going toe to toe in my head. Both are equally rational, level headed, convincing, and sportsmanlike. A third philosophy listens impartially. He makes comments and points out strengths and weaknesses of each side, but remains biased.

The first two reach an impasse. Neither has disproven the other one. Meekly, they ask the third to settle the matter.

Third philosophy shrugs and says, "Do what thou wilt."

In the real world, first two may continue with their beliefs and simply ignore each other. But this is within my singular mind. The conflict creates hesitation, insecurity, and cognitive dissonance. It's inhibiting my ability to function.

I need a resolution.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Am I missing something or did you not list the first two philosophies? What are they?

The third, "Do as you wilt", was the philosophy of Alistair Crowley.
 

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Are you saying that you're trying to pick a side - a philosophy?

If so, why? Why can't you just take the 'strengths' from each, and leave the 'weakensses'. Why does it have to be one or the other?

but remains biased
did you mean un-biased here?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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WanderingMan said:
Are you saying that you're trying to pick a side - a philosophy?

If so, why? Why can't you just take the 'strengths' from each, and leave the 'weakensses'. Why does it have to be one or the other?


did you mean un-biased here?
Yes, I meant unbiased.

Here's the dilemma. I have the desire to have women in my life. Ideally I would consider myself a humanist. As a Thelemite I theoretically value humans as divine beings. And I regard life as something to be celebrated. "Take your fill and Will of love."

The flip side is that in all my recent interactions with females, I find them obnoxious, manipulative, and unintelligent, resulting in a decline in my attraction to them. This is when I lean towards MGTOW. I admit, after being screwed over in divorce, I am somewhat paranoid towards women as well.

So in a broad sense, I want to learn game and be successful with women. But it's difficult because each and every individual interaction has been a negative one.
 
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