"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Hello this question is going to sound very silly.

i tend to overanalyze things and i have a question burning on my mind - please dont rip on me...BTW, im 18 years old


tomorrow night im going out with a girl to the movies. this is the first time im ever going out with her. i just met her recently at work and spoke to her several times.. she told me to calll her and GAVE me her number so i know shes interested in me.

ill see how it goes and ill decide whether its awkward or not to put my arm around her in the theatre...

but here is my main question... when i drive her home, i am going to kiss her goodnight. do i kiss her on the lips? cheek? make out? give me some advice please
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Depends on how well you click during the night. If you click very well, then a peck on the lips would be fitting. A peck on the cheek would be classier, and would be my choice. Not kissing her at all and hugging her would be acceptable. Just go with the flow.
 
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good question,

i'd need to know if you are doing anything before or after the date, but in case u arent well try to initiate a little kino early on the date, like you know waiting in line at the concession stand and such, that way during the movie if you put your arm around her she will be used to you touching her and wont freak out. as far as the kiss goes it really depends on how much she likes you and how she felt about being with you, just walk her to her doorstep after dropping her off, u should have read the bible so you know how to go for the kiss, just try it if you think you can get it, if not then just have patience.
 
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before the movie i am gonna try n get to do something where i can sit down and talk to her.. idk maybe get coffee or something i dont really know yet ill see whats around... im gonna try to hold her hand or do some kind of kino.. if i dont get a chance to do that ill just hold her hand during the movie...in my opinion, holding her hand is the minimal thing to do....

tell me how i can enchance my idea, and make it better


as for the kiss at the end of the night when i drop her off (usually i dont walk them to the door) -- - - i dont want her to feel insulted if i just kiss her on the cheek..thats why idk what to (i like this girl)
 
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There's only two options you should consider:

1. If you're ABSOLUTELY SURE the date was a disaster, then just let it go, no kiss, no nothing. But don't use this as an excuse to chicken out. When I say disaster, I mean: she insulted you, she stopped talking to you, she hit on other guys, etc. I mean a complete failure.

2. In every other situation, you go for a kiss, always on the lips. Never kiss her on the cheek. You kiss your grandma on the cheek, not your (possible) girlfriend.

Now no matter what occurs during the date, you should follow one of those two paths. It is ESSENTIAL you go for the kiss, on the lips, or else you just can't know for sure if she's really interested. Remember, the girl will have already decided if she likes you or not by the end of the date - going for the kiss risks nothing!
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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thank u everyone , we had a great time, everything went well and we had a long goodnight kiss
 
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