A simple escalation - botched

[Rawk Steady]

I recently met and vibed with a younger friend of a friend (she is 26). Long story short, I can tell that she likes me and likes to mess around as she told me about her fwb situation. We exchange some texts, keep it flirty. Saturday night she asks what I'm up to, I say watching a movie and to come over. She asks where, I send the address. The she says oh that's too far (it's 40 minutes) and she is feeling lazy. At which I choked and couldn't think of anything other than "suit yourself, some other time then." Lame. Lately I've been having blockage from escalating things to a romantic/sexual level, leaving everything nice, cordial...boring. There is still opportunity here but I need help to kick start the confident and creative juices. Or should I just use "dtf"?

 

[Bingo-Player]

I recently met and vibed with a younger friend of a friend (she is 26). Long story short, I can tell that she likes me and likes to mess around as she told me about her fwb situation. We exchange some texts, keep it flirty. Saturday night she asks what I'm up to, I say watching a movie and to come over. She asks where, I send the address. The she says oh that's too far (it's 40 minutes) and she is feeling lazy. At which I choked and couldn't think of anything other than "suit yourself, some other time then." Lame. Lately I've been having blockage from escalating things to a romantic/sexual level, leaving everything nice, cordial...boring. There is still opportunity here but I need help to kick start the confident and creative juices. Or should I just use "dtf"?

there was no need to reply to her when she said she was "feeling lazy"

if you had killed the conversation there it would of forced her hand

the response you sent sounds as though you are disappointed she couldn't come( which is exactly what she wanted ) - validation

 

[Glassguy]

I agree with @Bingo-Player

You never want to be putting in all of the effort. Make her earn your attention.

If it was me, and she asked me what I was doing on a Friday or Saturday night, I would say "meeting up with a friend for a couple drinks" and leave it at that.

The reason she asked you was to see if you had a busy life, another chick, etc. She was at home alone on a Saturday night and was ok with it once she knew she could have you if she wanted.

Her: what are you doing tonight?
Me: Meeting a friend for a drink
Her: That sounds fun. Where are you going out to?
Me: Not exactly sure what the night holds yet . I know where I am starting but no idea where I will end up
Her: What are you doing after that?
Me: Not sure. I will text you later. Not sure I will be able to drive that far to hang out at that point. If not maybe we can get together later.

See the difference OP? You are making her qualify herself. Even if your @ss was sitting at home bored to death, you should put on as if you have tons going on. Give her the option to invite YOU over. Again, making her work.

 

[Rawk Steady]

All good advice, thanks everyone. I'm rusty and this helps get my head right.