A serious question.....

[JohnChops]

So im going to a party tonight and all my friends are like "yah gonna hook up with so many girls" and all that sh1t. But I myself really do not give a fvck if I hook up with a girl or not. Fun is fun, with or without women.

But im starting to see the world like this and everything like this. I seem to not care if I have a girl im talking too as long as im doing well with myself but every single other person puts so much emphasis on getting women . I dont. Im in college too, arent I supposed to be out partying and getting women?

I just find myself having a good time regardless and studying most of the time.

Can anyone give me some input on this? My whole mind is shifting away from women completely, and i just dont give a fvck about them, and i sure as hell do not care about the outcome at all.

Is that a bad or good thing?

 

[Scars]

You're 19 and in college. People your age are in fist-pump Jersey Shore party rockin' mode. Maybe you just find the whole thing comical, I know I do. Nothing wrong with wanting to go out and just have a good time.

-Scars

 

[badboyjmm]

I think you are just in a phase where YOU are the life of the party, YOU don't care about outcomes anymore. Like partying and getting girls is great, but in order to do that, you need to be focus on you. The majority of times, when guys are saying:'' Let's hookup with a bunch of girls'' and '' I'm so getting laid tonight'' NOTHING HAPPENS why: Because the focus is placed on something you cannot control.

If you say to yourself:'' Well, let's have fun and enjoy the night, good things tend to happen.

 

[Scars]

I think you are just in a phase where YOU are the life of the party, YOU don't care about outcomes anymore. Like partying and getting girls is great, but in order to do that, you need to be focus on you. The majority of times, when guys are saying:'' Let's hookup with a bunch of girls'' and '' I'm so getting laid tonight'' NOTHING HAPPENS why: Because the focus is placed on something you cannot control.

If you say to yourself:'' Well, let's have fun and enjoy the night, good things tend to happen.

Sadly, this reminds me of my last trip to Vegas. Went there with my boys with the "I'm getting laid tonight" mindset. I mean, who in Vegas DOESN'T get laid, right? Had a couple prospects, then thought "Eh, I could do better" and ventured off some more. Before I knew what happened it was 3 in the morning, and all the b!tches were in bed or getting pounded. Should of focused more on having a good time, I barely even had a buzz.

-Scars

 

[CantTouchMyStyle]

This is very important.

There was a point in my life where I determined my success on how I did with women and would have huge HIGHS and then bottoming out points.

TOO many guys struggle with this. You put so much thought/focus/worry into women, that you lose focus of your real goals and your own happiness.

I've had more success going into situations with NO expectations and just wanting to have a good time than focused on HAVING to bring home a chick, etc.

I may not be articulating my thoughts well here, but it's like guys spend so many hours agonizing over women and pvssy that when it finally falls in their lap it's disappointing. Like, really? All that agonizing for this? It almost has to make you feel empty inside.

 

[JohnChops]

This is very important.

There was a point in my life where I determined my success on how I did with women and would have huge HIGHS and then bottoming out points.

TOO many guys struggle with this. You put so much thought/focus/worry into women, that you lose focus of your real goals and your own happiness.

I've had more success going into situations with NO expectations and just wanting to have a good time than focused on HAVING to bring home a chick, etc.

I may not be articulating my thoughts well here, but it's like guys spend so many hours agonizing over women and pvssy that when it finally falls in their lap it's disappointing. Like, really? All that agonizing for this? It almost has to make you feel empty inside.

Thanks for the replies fellas, Scars I for sure find all that stupid sh1t comical. Some dudes I see on campus come off and do anything for the girl in front of them and I just start laughing. Whether its an HB 3 or HB 10 theyll just supplicate.

I sooooo agree with going in to something with no expectations. Then you wont be disappointed if you dont get anything but you still had a good time.

I think you are just in a phase where YOU are the life of the party, YOU don't care about outcomes anymore. Like partying and getting girls is great, but in order to do that, you need to be focus on you. The majority of times, when guys are saying:'' Let's hookup with a bunch of girls'' and '' I'm so getting laid tonight'' NOTHING HAPPENS why: Because the focus is placed on something you cannot control.

If you say to yourself:'' Well, let's have fun and enjoy the night, good things tend to happen.

i like this too. Makes you more relaxed and not so tense like " OH FVCK GOTTA FIND A GIRL OR ELSE IM AN IDIOT" type mind set. Of course im the life of the party im me man! haha.

You're probably lying to yourself. Every time you Mb you wish there was a real woman there right?

I havent mb'd in weeks. I have a FWB thing but honestly i dont even like to MB anymore, but sometimes its needed.

 

[marmel75]

Always remember...talk is cheap