"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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A second try with my ex?

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bignick79

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Hello fellow Don Juan's!

I had an interesting experience this weekend. My ex and I have been talking and seeing each other again over the last 3-4 weeks, went out to brunch this past Sunday. I invited her, it was going to be a nice day so why not get out and enjoy it. I picked her up, went to brunch near the beach and we had a great day. After, as we walk around I reach for her hand and she welcomed holding my hand, rubbing my fingers and such as we walked. We were holding hands, laughing and talking the whole ride home. We spent about 4 hours together. When I dropped her off, she puckered up and I gave her a kiss.

Prior to this, verbally I wasn't getting a vibe that she wanted "try again" and I wasn't really pushing that either, but this was the first time I felt that the thought was there in her mind, or at least that physically a connection was developing again. What do you all think here my fellow Don's? How should I approach this going forward?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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SamTheHobit

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Just take it easy.. And tap the b!tch.
 
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Harry Wilmington

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I'm not normally a big fan of people getting back with their exes. Usually the issues that caused them to break up in the first place start to rear their ugly head again. I'd be curious as to why you two broke up in the first place - i.e. were you being AFCish, was she cheating on you, etc.

With that said, I find it usually works better if you:

(a) don't try to verbally bring up anything about you two possibly getting back together;
(b) keep showing through your ACTIONS that you're interested (again, not verbalizing it);
(c) remain patient;
(d) let HER initiate any "heavy" actions (i.e. letting her initiate the kiss - GREAT job, btw); and
(e) wait for her to bring up the "so, are we back together" conversation - that way you know for sure she's into the idea.

However, make sure whatever issues 'caused the initial break up aren't ones likely to surface again. For example, she broke up with you 'cause you were being AFCish, keep a note NOT to do those actions. If you broke up with her 'cause of something SHE did, make sure you're 100% over it or, if it was an annoying habit, that you're cool with it now.
 
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