A REAL QUESTION, by a REAL DON JUAN

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Don Juan

Oct 24, 2005

Originally posted by Mr. Cardio
haha, but what I am askin is how do I make a move without losing my cool......I thought that was the question? I dont have a problem making moves, I do, its just that sometimes I can lose my cool a little, I am just looking for a little information.

Your approach should(could) be an opinion opener that way you don't come off aggressive. It could even be a question opener like: Hey, did you see that fight outside the club?

Once you get the IOI's (Indicators of Interest) like the kino, the eye contact, the hair playing she's into you, and as long as you keep your laid back vibe and approach her you shouldnt have a problem.

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.