"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

Read more...

A real man!

European-DJ

Master Don Juan
Joined
Dec 13, 2010
Messages
704
Reaction score
165
Location
Europe
Simple question, define a real man!

Lately, i have been wondering how to define this?
- what makes a true Male/Man?

Discuss,
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

Read more...

TheCWord

Master Don Juan
Joined
Apr 10, 2013
Messages
873
Reaction score
63
I think the exact definition will vary from guy to guy, but in broad terms: a real man is secure in himself, takes responsibility for his actions, and builds other people up rather than break them down. He pursues his passion and lives the life he wants, so long as it doesn't cause others any harm. He treats everyone with respect, especially women, but respects himself above all else. He loves his girl but his life would still be complete if that relationship were to expire. He walks away from sub-optimal situations. He takes care of his people - his family and friends. He earns a living to support his wife and kids. He is loyal. He is in control of his emotions. And he would never, ever hit a woman.
 

TheException

Master Don Juan
Joined
Apr 17, 2013
Messages
1,109
Reaction score
111
Its not about being a "real man". Ironically the way to become a "real man" is not give a sh1t whether people think you are one or not.
 

Roni_88

Don Juan
Joined
Sep 15, 2014
Messages
161
Reaction score
19
A real man is who can overcome anything that gets in his way and who will always stand for what he believes or what he is no matter what.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

Read more...

Top