"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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A Real Life lesson- Never Burn Bridges

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1. In grade 7-8, there was an asian, good kid, although at the time he was the butt of many mean-spirited jokes between me and a friend. I went so far as to throw tennis balls at him one day after school. We never saw each other several years after this.

Enter grade 11, and I we are in the same gym class. Eventually, we speak to each other, gradually, and one day we do lunch and I ask his forgiveness for the cruel things I did, and he accepts like it's nothing.

Fast forward 1 more year, and we are in another class. We end up playing tons of cards at the end of the period with two other guys, and end up having tons of fun.

Another time I am walking to work, and this same guy offers me a lift to work(I was walking in 95 degree weather in my work uni.).

Finally, I had a brief gig. working in a factory, and the bell rings, signifying our first break. I go to wahs my hands, turn around, and look who's there? We exchange greetings like old buds, and do lunch/break.

All this from someone I thought I was better than back in the day. I didn't deserve the treatment from him, but he did it anyways. I never made fun of him after grader school.

Moral: NEVER burn any bridge no matter what, because you NEVER know what could happen, NEVER.

I could have sat alone that day at the plant, eating by myself, but instead I got to talk to someone in my situation.

Never burn a bridge or think you are better than anyone. These posts are always good reminders.

Killa out

Edit- You just never know
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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well if i was him i would have burned that bridge to you for sure :rolleyes:
 

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Most people would have: But I said I was sorry, and never did anything like that again.

Perhaps in a way like killing someone, then in a change of heart, going to confession.
 

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Funny to hear this. I got a similar one. Me and another friends of mine teased a guy (2 years younger) when we were 11-12 or something. Now this guy is one of my current good friends. We laugh about it now but he told us that he would take another route back then just to avoid us lol. Kids are mean (and honest).
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Good reminder! Back in 7th grade me and this guy were absolute enemys, he always made fun of me and I returned the favor. Now in 10th grade he is one of my good friends and we hang out all the time. A lot of kids that my old self considered "geeks" turn out to be pretty cool people once they grow a little older.
 

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Originally posted by AB500
A lot of kids that my old self considered "geeks" turn out to be pretty cool people once they grow a little older.
Exactly, this is the case of my best friend right now - and me and my former classmates used to make fun of him. Now I can tell FOR sure that the 'geek' in school is going to be very very rich and respectable!
 

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treat others as you...
 
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Wow this post is touching. It made me think of all the crazy events that happened in grade school. Damn i was one crazy ass kid lol, but as i mature i acknowledge a image of a better being, and eventually try to improve myself and made my way to this site. Anyhow great post! 2thumbs up!
 

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after reading this... i just realized most of my good friends were once my enemies.. true story
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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My question is, how do you burn a bridge that never existed in the first place? You weren't friends with this kid in grade school, you just picked (bullied) on him , right?
 

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Actually, we were somewhat pals, played a lil ball, then he got a bum rap, out of nowhere, and I followed/lead the herd.
 

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Burning bridges is a primitive form of warfare.

I wait until the guy is on the bridge, then detonate the packs of C4 I have planted under it.

Sharp spikes I have pre-erected directly under the bridge in the gorge will be waiting our young friend. Also, there will be numerous types of flesh eating bacteria and leeches on the spikes so that even the speediest medical personnel will not be able to save him.
 

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Originally posted by AFK Protector
Burning bridges is a primitive form of warfare.

I wait until the guy is on the bridge, then detonate the packs of C4 I have planted under it.

Sharp spikes I have pre-erected directly under the bridge in the gorge will be waiting our young friend. Also, there will be numerous types of flesh eating bacteria and leeches on the spikes so that even the speediest medical personnel will not be able to save him.
You forgot the buckets of acid.:cool:
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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what about millions of ants crawling over him (not for the purpose of err..eating him, but for the sheer mental breakdown of himself).

Combined with his now inability to move effectively across those spikes, he is slowed to the point where the ants roam free over his body....
 

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Originally posted by ryan killa
Never burn a bridge or think you are better than anyone. These posts are always good reminders.
True. Two years ago I met a girl that I initially didn't like. Actually, I hated her. I hated her guts. She's three years younger than me, and any time we would meet (I worked for a teen newspaper at the time) I would use all my oportunities to put her down. I had that "I'm smarter than anyone" attitude back then. I humbled down a bit since, meaning that I now allow anyone to give their opinion on anything, given that I have the last call on making a decision.
To make a long story short, few months ago we started spending more time together, since we work together again. I know, I know, never date chicks from work, work is stressful enough. :D I found that there's a lot of good about this girl once you scratch under the surface. I can't tell you how much I've regretted my "never say never" and "**** you all" attitudes. But, considering that I'm a changed man, (after an NDE, BTW) I've learned how to move on. There is one thing I'll write about on this forum soon considering finding an "inner peace". Once you achieve that, everything, including girls, is plain simple.
Until then, cheers guys!
 

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Oh yeah, we laugh about it too, especially during mock fights. Mock arguments with girls are cool, especially when there are spectators... Oh the looks on their faces... :D
 
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