A real head scratcher here!!!!!

[catman]

First off i have read the whole plate spinning thread and agree with it 100%.I have 2 that i have been spinning and a third simmering on the back burner.Heres whats got me scratching my head? I have an almost 16 year old daughter that lives with me every other week(shared custody).While i try to see these women on the weeks i dont have her and try to focus on spending time with her im wondering? She knows that i have been seeing 2 women at the same time cause they call, text, and one will stop over sumtimes out of the blue.Without getting all moral isnt this reinforceing the idea that men cheat and lie to their gfs-wives? I mean i try to set a good example for her but to me this is kinda like smoking weed with your kids and then telling them not to do drugs Whats your thoughts on this?

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear Catman,
I felt the same way myself long whiles ago....Forget it,you are doing your girl a service...like my daughters she will grow up Street wise....I was straight up with my girls,told them that's the way Men are,protect yourself,get a degree,good job and separate bank account...They are now fine young Adults...any other course is pandering to the Matrix.

 

[jophil28]

Dear Catman,
I felt the same way myself long whiles ago....Forget it,you are doing your girl a service...like my daughters she will grow up Street wise....I was straight up with my girls,told them that's the way Men are,protect yourself,get a degree,good job and separate bank account...They are now fine young Adults...any other course is pandering to the Matrix.

Scara has it ^^.

 

[slaog]

Dear Catman,
I felt the same way myself long whiles ago....Forget it,you are doing your girl a service...like my daughters she will grow up Street wise....I was straight up with my girls,told them that's the way Men are,protect yourself,get a degree,good job and separate bank account...They are now fine young Adults...any other course is pandering to the Matrix.

Thats OK telling them but you have to be careful that she doesn't start to see it as normal behaviour. If she sees it as being a normal thing to do maybe she might want to spin plates.


She might also have an overally negative opinion of men. Some women only see the negative side of men and we all know what kind of women they are.

 

[Lexington]

First of all, you are not doing anything immoral. You are not in a committed relationship with either woman. Or are you? Unless you officially told one or both of the women that you are committed to them, then you have no obligation to keep things exclusive.

 

[Kailex]

Without getting all moral isnt this reinforceing the idea that men cheat and lie to their gfs-wives?

Then just explain that these are lady friends.
Technically, none of these plates are "girlfriends" nor "wives".

There's no exclusivity, hence, no sense of attachment.
Explain that this is a selection process through which you will eventually find the best candidate that lives up to your standards, the one that'll add true value to your already valuable life.

 

[catman]

Thanx and great advice as always!! I have been trying to instill as much street smarts as i can with my daughter.Had some really in depth conversations about drugs and drinking.I will tell her about the lady friends next week when shes with me.