"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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And so I was trying to DJ this one chick and as we talk, I give her this eye contact and as we talk I use the old "ah your nose wiggles when you laugh" quote and after another neg she said that I make her feel self conscious. I told her that she was overreacting and needing to calm down.

I made her feel self conscious, is this a good thing or bad?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Dude, read the DJ Bible again...

It's called neg-hits work on girls with low self esteem. Why are you even gaming chicks like that?

If she gets self concious from your ways, than your not vibing with her.

So YES it is bad. Unless you are simply breaking down barriers that you can sense it's not helping.

Neg's are meant to do what?

"say it again, I can't heeeeeeaaaaaarrrrr youououou!"

Negs are meant to break down b!tch shields. To make a girl know she ain't up on a pedestal.
 

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You should incorporate a sort of casual comedy in your neg hits to maintain an atmosphere of normal comfort. Make sure you laugh a little, then move on. The purpose of a neg is to make a girl feel as if you aren't a "threat", but also to make the uber-hot ones come down a notch. Judge the self-esteem of the girls that you are encountering and use that as a judge of how much to neg. I usually go by my own standard. The more I feel intimidated or uncomfortable around a hottie, the more I will rely on some of my tried and true negs to lighten things up, even out the playing field, and make both of us more comfortable together. Always remember that negs are supposed to lighten the mood, not create animosity.

-Damian
 
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hey man, i was just tellin that hoe what was up... She on the other hand has been complimenting me. She says I'm intimidating, yet halarious and sweet. I told her "hey, I just drink my beer and watch 60s porn."

Hell I noticed that whenever I'm far from where she's at in class, she'll be sweet and all that sh*t, but when I'm near her because a friend sits close to her, she starts cussing her friend out and telling her how she hates all these b*tches. She's an AFC.

She wants my johns...
 
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