"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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And so I was trying to DJ this one chick and as we talk, I give her this eye contact and as we talk I use the old "ah your nose wiggles when you laugh" quote and after another neg she said that I make her feel self conscious. I told her that she was overreacting and needing to calm down.

I made her feel self conscious, is this a good thing or bad?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Dude, read the DJ Bible again...

It's called neg-hits work on girls with low self esteem. Why are you even gaming chicks like that?

If she gets self concious from your ways, than your not vibing with her.

So YES it is bad. Unless you are simply breaking down barriers that you can sense it's not helping.

Neg's are meant to do what?

"say it again, I can't heeeeeeaaaaaarrrrr youououou!"

Negs are meant to break down b!tch shields. To make a girl know she ain't up on a pedestal.
 

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You should incorporate a sort of casual comedy in your neg hits to maintain an atmosphere of normal comfort. Make sure you laugh a little, then move on. The purpose of a neg is to make a girl feel as if you aren't a "threat", but also to make the uber-hot ones come down a notch. Judge the self-esteem of the girls that you are encountering and use that as a judge of how much to neg. I usually go by my own standard. The more I feel intimidated or uncomfortable around a hottie, the more I will rely on some of my tried and true negs to lighten things up, even out the playing field, and make both of us more comfortable together. Always remember that negs are supposed to lighten the mood, not create animosity.

-Damian
 
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hey man, i was just tellin that hoe what was up... She on the other hand has been complimenting me. She says I'm intimidating, yet halarious and sweet. I told her "hey, I just drink my beer and watch 60s porn."

Hell I noticed that whenever I'm far from where she's at in class, she'll be sweet and all that sh*t, but when I'm near her because a friend sits close to her, she starts cussing her friend out and telling her how she hates all these b*tches. She's an AFC.

She wants my johns...
 
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