A girl from my past hits me up on facebook asking me if i remember her ( i used to hang out with her sister) and stuff like that and even gives me her number in a message telling me to call/txt her when i'm free (we ended up going to the same college so she saw me around once). so i call her and set up a time to go see a movie (avatar). i pick her up and take her and all is fine when i drop her back at her home. school starts back up for her in january (this is in december) and now whenever i try to call/txt her, i get no response or reply. the movie happened in chicago and school is in urbana illinois. i have an apartment in urbana which is why im still here. i basically havent talked to her since january. she's on my friends list but i still havent talked to her. any explanation?
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
A random situation i've experienced
- Thread starter omega05
- Start date
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Kailex
Master Don Juan
Elaborate on what happened on that "date".
And, just my opinion... but going to the movies is a terrible place to take someone out the first time around.
I can't tell you what you did wrong if you don't give me details, but I can almost guarantee that it has to do with the place you picked and then the lack of interaction because of the location... are probably what did you in.
And, just my opinion... but going to the movies is a terrible place to take someone out the first time around.
I can't tell you what you did wrong if you don't give me details, but I can almost guarantee that it has to do with the place you picked and then the lack of interaction because of the location... are probably what did you in.
i took her to see avatar and we just watched the movie then after asked how was it. then walked to the car which was across the street. talked and joked in the car when i got to her place for like a half hour and even told me to lift her up when we got out the car and then gave her a hug and that was it. then chatted on the phone a couple days later about how her sister was going to the navy and how she's going out of town to see some family. everything seemed lighthearted and fun.
Kailex
Master Don Juan
#1 - Next time, take her somewhere else. You wasted 2.5 hours of Kino/Talking/Escalation time... at a movie.
#2 - You went back to her place for 30 minutes and all you gave was a hug?
#3 - Lighthearted and fun? Where's the sexual tension in all of this? Were you trying to make a new friend or asking a girl out and letting her know that you were sexually interested into her?
Nothing I've read in this whole thread has even indicated to me that at any point were you willing to let her know that you were sexually intrigued by her and that you were aggressive in any manner.
Did you like this girl at all, or did you just want to "hang out" with her that night? It seems like you are wondering why she won't talk to you... well, here it is... you barely even touched her. She thinks you're not interested her. She TOLD YOU to lift her up (or whatever)... and the biggest amount of escalation in the whole night (which to my estimation was a 4 hour date) was a hug?
You never made a move.
Why not?
#2 - You went back to her place for 30 minutes and all you gave was a hug?
#3 - Lighthearted and fun? Where's the sexual tension in all of this? Were you trying to make a new friend or asking a girl out and letting her know that you were sexually interested into her?
Nothing I've read in this whole thread has even indicated to me that at any point were you willing to let her know that you were sexually intrigued by her and that you were aggressive in any manner.
Did you like this girl at all, or did you just want to "hang out" with her that night? It seems like you are wondering why she won't talk to you... well, here it is... you barely even touched her. She thinks you're not interested her. She TOLD YOU to lift her up (or whatever)... and the biggest amount of escalation in the whole night (which to my estimation was a 4 hour date) was a hug?
You never made a move.
Why not?
i didnt see her as some chick i should make a move with. i guess i saw her more as a friend from my past (like over 5 years ago). i didnt really know her back then. this is the first time i ever hung out with her one on one. i seriously doubt that's the reason though.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.