A girl from my past hits me up on facebook asking me if i remember her ( i used to hang out with her sister) and stuff like that and even gives me her number in a message telling me to call/txt her when i'm free (we ended up going to the same college so she saw me around once). so i call her and set up a time to go see a movie (avatar). i pick her up and take her and all is fine when i drop her back at her home. school starts back up for her in january (this is in december) and now whenever i try to call/txt her, i get no response or reply. the movie happened in chicago and school is in urbana illinois. i have an apartment in urbana which is why im still here. i basically havent talked to her since january. she's on my friends list but i still havent talked to her. any explanation?
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
A random situation i've experienced
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Kailex
Master Don Juan
Elaborate on what happened on that "date".
And, just my opinion... but going to the movies is a terrible place to take someone out the first time around.
I can't tell you what you did wrong if you don't give me details, but I can almost guarantee that it has to do with the place you picked and then the lack of interaction because of the location... are probably what did you in.
And, just my opinion... but going to the movies is a terrible place to take someone out the first time around.
I can't tell you what you did wrong if you don't give me details, but I can almost guarantee that it has to do with the place you picked and then the lack of interaction because of the location... are probably what did you in.
i took her to see avatar and we just watched the movie then after asked how was it. then walked to the car which was across the street. talked and joked in the car when i got to her place for like a half hour and even told me to lift her up when we got out the car and then gave her a hug and that was it. then chatted on the phone a couple days later about how her sister was going to the navy and how she's going out of town to see some family. everything seemed lighthearted and fun.
Kailex
Master Don Juan
#1 - Next time, take her somewhere else. You wasted 2.5 hours of Kino/Talking/Escalation time... at a movie.
#2 - You went back to her place for 30 minutes and all you gave was a hug?
#3 - Lighthearted and fun? Where's the sexual tension in all of this? Were you trying to make a new friend or asking a girl out and letting her know that you were sexually interested into her?
Nothing I've read in this whole thread has even indicated to me that at any point were you willing to let her know that you were sexually intrigued by her and that you were aggressive in any manner.
Did you like this girl at all, or did you just want to "hang out" with her that night? It seems like you are wondering why she won't talk to you... well, here it is... you barely even touched her. She thinks you're not interested her. She TOLD YOU to lift her up (or whatever)... and the biggest amount of escalation in the whole night (which to my estimation was a 4 hour date) was a hug?
You never made a move.
Why not?
#2 - You went back to her place for 30 minutes and all you gave was a hug?
#3 - Lighthearted and fun? Where's the sexual tension in all of this? Were you trying to make a new friend or asking a girl out and letting her know that you were sexually interested into her?
Nothing I've read in this whole thread has even indicated to me that at any point were you willing to let her know that you were sexually intrigued by her and that you were aggressive in any manner.
Did you like this girl at all, or did you just want to "hang out" with her that night? It seems like you are wondering why she won't talk to you... well, here it is... you barely even touched her. She thinks you're not interested her. She TOLD YOU to lift her up (or whatever)... and the biggest amount of escalation in the whole night (which to my estimation was a 4 hour date) was a hug?
You never made a move.
Why not?
i didnt see her as some chick i should make a move with. i guess i saw her more as a friend from my past (like over 5 years ago). i didnt really know her back then. this is the first time i ever hung out with her one on one. i seriously doubt that's the reason though.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.