"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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A quick question

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If you are in class and you start running routines on a girl you like, and because of the things you say, you catch the attention of a lot of people. Is this a good thing or bad? I noticed in one class that I was just on fire with this one chick. I opened her and ran a few routines(ESP, dog names, etc..) and this set me off for better convo. Well, this girl isnt the cutest girl in the class, there are a few hotties sitting in close proximity of my target and me and I noticed that all these hotties were paying close attention to the conversation the whole time. I would talk to my target and make eye contact sparingly with one or two other girls and they would end up shifting their eye contact when i glanced at them and finally one the alpha chick of this group got my attention and told me that I was being loud in a playful manner and since I was already in a playful manner as well, we squinted our eyes at each other like we were gonna fight...it was cool and everything but After the class I analyzed this situation and noticed that when I run game on a girl in any class or place with people, they all like to tune in and watch me..Am I being too obvious? I hope not.

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In fact I notice that whenever I say something, get up and walk around, or talk to someone.....a lot of people want to tune in. I've noticed this and maybe I have developed a way to exude more confidence and charm than the other guys and people in general BUT, I feel uncomfortable when I have 24 people watching me as I talk to a girl or a friend.

--another funny thing is that to those who respond to this, notice how I put a Time Constraint to the title of a thread which asks a question that isn't all that quick. ha! talk about internalization.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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True Wolf

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Dude, people would kill for that kinda attention (most often themselves) be happy with it.
 

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Be flattered. You get good at spittin' game with 30 people watching you, you'll own the broad when you're alone.
 

life_of_a_legend

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Yeh brother I feel you,

That happens to me all the time so I always do the "Initial Approach" on a girl when she's by herself. (When she's putting something in her bag or waiting for the train etc) Then when she knows me, that's when I talk to her during class because i know i won't get a weird look from her or get a rejection..but then again any girl would be a fool to reject me;) and to answer your question ...Yes! you are being too obvious but obvious is a good thing in your situation:up:
 

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Yes, yes, yes. Roll with that, you are able to capture the interest of an entire class of kids, that is very impressive, and very alpha. Keep it up.

--Mission
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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