"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Your in a relationship, all you can think of is how sh!t it is, you want out, you get out then all you can focus on is all the good times.

The same applies to school, it seems so dam good now I look back on it.

It just doesnt make much sense. The human mind is so messed up.

Anyone care to give me some solutions?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Simply put: We desire change and loath it at the same time. eg. When in school you want out because its boring and usally the same, but once you get out you miss the familliarity.

Its weird but we want change but we fear new suroundings, and thats prolly why you want to go back.

Psycology is hard to explain.
 
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There's no "solution" to fix that feeling. That's just the way it is. Most of the time when you look back on something from before you don't think about all the bad things that happened and just focus on the good. Therefore, even if you weren't happy at that time, looking back on it you often think it wasn't as bad as you had thought originally.
 
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Thats gd stuff guys.

Also the grass isnt always as green on the other side so people give up and want to walk back, maybe the way to do it is to keep walking even further?
 
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wrong answers.
by the same vein, if you break up with a HB7 with a boring personality, but remain single for 6 months, you'll often be thinking 'damn, i wish i was still with her.' however, if you broke up with her and got with a really fun HB8 the next day, you'd never think about her again.

the problem is, you've replaced highschool with something equally or more boring then high school.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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yeah dude thats what I was saying. Great stuff.
 
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