"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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A problem that's a little bit complex.

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Ok, first thing, Hi. First post.

Now, I'm going trought some interesting times on my life, and I've been trying to find as much advice as I can without having to pay for therapy, so I've been abusing the anonimity and good will of the internet to search for advice in diferent forums.

Now to the issue at hand: I'm 26. I'm one of those lonely guys who got too busy in life to search for love and was too asocial to stump into it by chance. So I'm a virgin, with all the things that imply. But before you say anything, some time ago I decided it was time to pay attention to that aspect of my life I've seem to forget, and I began dating.

I's been fun, but I hadn't hit the jackpot. No one I've find to have great chemistry. And you can imagine that since I waited this long to do this it is a HUGE deal for me. I didn't waited 26 years to boow this on some crappy one night stand.

But a couple of weeks ago I met this girl... I really like her, and I think she likes me. I haven't asked her out, but we've talked a lot, and I feel we go great together. I was about to start asking her out and getting all serious, when I found out her age: She'll be 18 this october.

Now I'm so damn confused I'm posting this in forums. ;) I mean, on one hand I think it's not to bad, since romantically speaking, I'm very inmature. But then I can't stop thinking I'm turning into some kind of pedophilic, or that at her age she'll be looing for things completly opposed to what i look for. And I'm afraid even if I'm blowing things out of proportion and age is not a big deal to todays society, my fears about it will ruin my chances.

So... any advice is welcomed.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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October is not far away, you're a very immature guy. Frankly you need to practise dating someone who will not be comparing you to the last 50 boyfriends she has slept with.

So proceed. You can keep it non physical for a while till she is 18. I'm sure that is something which you could handle, since your sex drive is probably pretty low.
 
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