"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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A problem that's a little bit complex.

Theday

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Ok, first thing, Hi. First post.

Now, I'm going trought some interesting times on my life, and I've been trying to find as much advice as I can without having to pay for therapy, so I've been abusing the anonimity and good will of the internet to search for advice in diferent forums.

Now to the issue at hand: I'm 26. I'm one of those lonely guys who got too busy in life to search for love and was too asocial to stump into it by chance. So I'm a virgin, with all the things that imply. But before you say anything, some time ago I decided it was time to pay attention to that aspect of my life I've seem to forget, and I began dating.

I's been fun, but I hadn't hit the jackpot. No one I've find to have great chemistry. And you can imagine that since I waited this long to do this it is a HUGE deal for me. I didn't waited 26 years to boow this on some crappy one night stand.

But a couple of weeks ago I met this girl... I really like her, and I think she likes me. I haven't asked her out, but we've talked a lot, and I feel we go great together. I was about to start asking her out and getting all serious, when I found out her age: She'll be 18 this october.

Now I'm so damn confused I'm posting this in forums. ;) I mean, on one hand I think it's not to bad, since romantically speaking, I'm very inmature. But then I can't stop thinking I'm turning into some kind of pedophilic, or that at her age she'll be looing for things completly opposed to what i look for. And I'm afraid even if I'm blowing things out of proportion and age is not a big deal to todays society, my fears about it will ruin my chances.

So... any advice is welcomed.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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ElChoclo

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October is not far away, you're a very immature guy. Frankly you need to practise dating someone who will not be comparing you to the last 50 boyfriends she has slept with.

So proceed. You can keep it non physical for a while till she is 18. I'm sure that is something which you could handle, since your sex drive is probably pretty low.
 
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