"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I've seen this said many times in the past, even said it myself once or twice, so I think I'll say it again.

You guys want to know the real "secret" of having a good life? The real way to ensure you have a good time in high school and everything after? Well, before we get to that, ask yourself a few questions on why you came to this site:

1) Did I come here to get girls?

2) Did I come here to change myself?

3) Did I come here to learn?

If you said "yes" to #1 and #2, then this post is surely for you. If you said "yes" to #3, then you're on the right track, so keep reading to keep learning.

Guys - Despite what you might hear, might see at first, and might initially intend, don't use this site to get laid. Don't use this site to get better with women, or get more "friends." Don't even use this site to "tweak your image," per se. Use this site to learn what people have done to improve and enjoy their overall lives, and go from there.

Truth be told, you - in 100% honesty - do not need a girl in your life to make you happy. It's nice, but it's not the "master key" to unlocking happiness and fulfillment. I know some people put a lot of stock into it, but just drop that for a moment. Drop it, and ask yourself "What are all the other things (besides chicks) I like to do, that really add meaning to my day?"

Those are the things you should concentrate on - doing all the things you like to do as often as possible. When you do the things you enjoy, you become happy. Sacrificing everything you are and everything you embody in order to become what you think is something other people will idolize is foolish. If you put too much stock into things you don't necessarily need or necessarily care about, and do things you aren't necessarily too wild about isn't going to make you happy. And a happy person is much more attractive than a non-happy person.

So, yes, improve your social skills, improve your overall outlook on life, and keep the rest of the things you enjoy the same. If you don't like football, don't start playing because you think chicks dig football players. If you enjoy working on computers, don't stop doing that because you think you'll come off as a nerd. And definately don't go for the people who only like you for putting on a face and doing things you're not enthusiastic about. Who cares if the one "HB10" you saw at the mall isn't your type? You'll be infinately more satisfied by finding someone who is. And, with your honed social thinking and knoweldge of people in general, that hottie who does fit your criteria doesn't stand a chance ;)
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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well put cablelight

it is certainly stupid to change your opinions for other people to suit their taste. there have been countless examples when i tried to please hbs by saying i hated something when i actually liked it.
strong people have strong opinions and aren't afraid to express them
 

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Originally posted by gav

strong people have strong opinions and aren't afraid to express them
Fvckin' A. :)
 

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I agree 100% Never change abandon something you enjoy doing for anyone. Like me I enjoy playing Videogames, Does make me a nerd/nolife loser? Nope its just entertainment but like digging chicks i certainly do not center my life around it.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I like it :) awesome post.

I think it hits on the point, a DJ is not a pickup artist. He simply is himself and the women flock to HIM.

Good post bro :cool:
 
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