"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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A Personal Philosophy

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A few nights ago, I was hanging out at a friend's house. He was throwing a party that night and every one was drinking. Now, I don't drink but I think it's fun to be around people who do, it's very entertaining. Anyway, I've been friends with this guy since high school and the whole time I've known him it's always seemed as if nothing effects him. I know that he's been in some bad situations but he's always seemed to just dust his shoulders off and keep moving. He's not one to talk much about serious things, but he was starting to get a little tipsy and open so I figured I'd interview him a little bit. I asked him what his secret was to always be able to move through life with no problems. This is what he said:

Man, it's not that I don't have problems, but I see them for what they are. Things change constantly, it's a fact of life. Sometimes it's a good change, sometimes it's for the worse. Either way you may not be happy with it. It doesn't matter though because you don't have control over a lot of things that can happen to you, they are unavoidable. Pay attention to what you can change and what you can't. However, the only thing that you can always control is yourself. It's up to you whether a situation gets you down or not. When you really think about it you can't let things get you down because if you do you'll just be down more than you are up. You have to do what it takes for you to be happy because at the end of your life, when you're on your deathbed, you're going to think about what you made the most of, regrets or good memories. It's all a state of mind, you've got to be a glass half-full kind of person. If you find a job that makes you happy stick with it, but if you want more money get a better job, whatever it is you want more. If you're relationship is falling apart or you've gotten dumped, chances are it would have happened eventually anyway, so it's a chance for you to get on the right track. You have to look at failures as opportunities to try again. If you do this man, nothing can touch you. I mean NOTHING. Anyway, the biggest point I'm trying to make is that you have to enjoy the ride before it ends and don't take everything so seriously. You'll be surprised how much better things will be.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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All this when he was tipsy?
Ace.
 

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Yeah, he's a real smart guy. He was somewhere in between being relaxed and telling everyone that you love them lol.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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