"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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A Personal Philosophy

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A few nights ago, I was hanging out at a friend's house. He was throwing a party that night and every one was drinking. Now, I don't drink but I think it's fun to be around people who do, it's very entertaining. Anyway, I've been friends with this guy since high school and the whole time I've known him it's always seemed as if nothing effects him. I know that he's been in some bad situations but he's always seemed to just dust his shoulders off and keep moving. He's not one to talk much about serious things, but he was starting to get a little tipsy and open so I figured I'd interview him a little bit. I asked him what his secret was to always be able to move through life with no problems. This is what he said:

Man, it's not that I don't have problems, but I see them for what they are. Things change constantly, it's a fact of life. Sometimes it's a good change, sometimes it's for the worse. Either way you may not be happy with it. It doesn't matter though because you don't have control over a lot of things that can happen to you, they are unavoidable. Pay attention to what you can change and what you can't. However, the only thing that you can always control is yourself. It's up to you whether a situation gets you down or not. When you really think about it you can't let things get you down because if you do you'll just be down more than you are up. You have to do what it takes for you to be happy because at the end of your life, when you're on your deathbed, you're going to think about what you made the most of, regrets or good memories. It's all a state of mind, you've got to be a glass half-full kind of person. If you find a job that makes you happy stick with it, but if you want more money get a better job, whatever it is you want more. If you're relationship is falling apart or you've gotten dumped, chances are it would have happened eventually anyway, so it's a chance for you to get on the right track. You have to look at failures as opportunities to try again. If you do this man, nothing can touch you. I mean NOTHING. Anyway, the biggest point I'm trying to make is that you have to enjoy the ride before it ends and don't take everything so seriously. You'll be surprised how much better things will be.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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All this when he was tipsy?
Ace.
 

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Yeah, he's a real smart guy. He was somewhere in between being relaxed and telling everyone that you love them lol.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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