A nice guy uncle tale

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It was a Thursday when some of my relatives and I were talking about different things, catching up, and just having a nice family moment. Suddenly, I brought up the fact that my brother had a daughter. He is the first of the three brothers to have a baby, so when my uncle heard the news, he was really happy.

Then he said something that really surprised me, especially now that I’m becoming more and more aware of the red pill perspective. He said: “So she saw that he is a good guy.”

At the time, I didn’t pay much attention to it. But later, I started thinking about what he said and realized how much of a blue pill mentality my uncle has.

I obviously don’t know every aspect of my brothers relationship, so I can’t make a complete judgment. But I do know my brother very well, and I’ve noticed that he has some traits that are often associated with an alpha personality. He likes going to the gym, carries himself with a very strong frame around people, is independent, sets clear boundaries when he doesn’t like something, and usually doesn’t over-explain himself—he just says what needs to be said. Those are some of the traits I’ve personally observed in him. And honestly, I don’t believe his wife fell in love with him simply because he was a “good guy.”

I remember that I used to think the same way: that being a good guy was one of the main reasons a woman would fall in love with a man. It’s a mentality I’m actively working on removing from myself completely.

What makes the situation even more interesting is that, despite all those traits, I also know that my uncle is heavily influenced by his wife. If he wants to do something and she disagrees, he usually just stops. There are several other details like that.

So I’m curious: what do you think about this? Have you noticed this kind of mentality in people in your own family?
 

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It was a Thursday when some of my relatives and I were talking about different things, catching up, and just having a nice family moment. Suddenly, I brought up the fact that my brother had a daughter. He is the first of the three brothers to have a baby, so when my uncle heard the news, he was really happy.

Then he said something that really surprised me, especially now that I’m becoming more and more aware of the red pill perspective. He said: “So she saw that he is a good guy.”

At the time, I didn’t pay much attention to it. But later, I started thinking about what he said and realized how much of a blue pill mentality my uncle has.

I obviously don’t know every aspect of my brothers relationship, so I can’t make a complete judgment. But I do know my brother very well, and I’ve noticed that he has some traits that are often associated with an alpha personality. He likes going to the gym, carries himself with a very strong frame around people, is independent, sets clear boundaries when he doesn’t like something, and usually doesn’t over-explain himself—he just says what needs to be said. Those are some of the traits I’ve personally observed in him. And honestly, I don’t believe his wife fell in love with him simply because he was a “good guy.”

I remember that I used to think the same way: that being a good guy was one of the main reasons a woman would fall in love with a man. It’s a mentality I’m actively working on removing from myself completely.

What makes the situation even more interesting is that, despite all those traits, I also know that my uncle is heavily influenced by his wife. If he wants to do something and she disagrees, he usually just stops. There are several other details like that.

So I’m curious: what do you think about this? Have you noticed this kind of mentality in people in your own family?

Don't know if it's a bot or not, but in regard to the questions above, you definitely can be an "Alpha" and a good guy. There's no conflict between them.
There IS a difference between being a good guy ( while holding a masculine frame) and a Nice guy ( A$$ kiser).
 

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Don't know if it's a bot or not, but in regard to the questions above, you definitely can be an "Alpha" and a good guy. There's no conflict between them.
There IS a difference between being a good guy ( while holding a masculine frame) and a Nice guy ( A$$ kiser).
Yes, I should have use the term nice guy, as I am not a native english speaker, sometimes is hard for me to find the correct words to translate from spanish to english.
 

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A woman has to be attracted to you first, otherwise nothing happens. A man can be very nice and pleasant, but if she isn't attracted, she will not give him a shot. If she is attracted to you, being nice, without being a pushover will not hurt you.

Don't confuse being 'nice', with being a nice guy pushover. Women see this as an attempt at manipulation.
 

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A woman has to be attracted to you first, otherwise nothing happens. A man can be very nice and pleasant, but if she isn't attracted, she will not give him a shot. If she is attracted to you, being nice, without being a pushover will not hurt you.

Don't confuse being 'nice', with being a nice guy pushover. Women see this as an attempt at manipulation.
Matter of fact, an alpha IS a pleasant man to be around because he's capable of a lotta things that most average and below dudes are not for example, his balls will nlbe emptied on a regular, whereas the "nice guy" is actually oozing sexual frustration.

The alpha already knows he can get p00sy anytime( life shows him that) whereas the nice guy is constantly doubting himself. The alpha knows female nature and always keeps one foot out the door whereas the nice guy goes all in on a woman , only to get devastated when her female nature comes to play and she leaves him.

The alpha can inflict physical damage, thus he just might shrug off bs whereas the beta guy tries to prove himself and even gets hurt in the process.

I can go on and on. And spare me the " alpha isn't a real thing " cope bs and that a scientistdebunked that wolfs are alpha blahblahblah. Just because YOU ( reader) ain't alpha doesn't mean the concept ain't real.
 

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Are you a bot?



The em dash instead of a hyphen, plus the perfect spelling and grammar, leads me to believe this isn't a human...
I use the em-dash a lot - but it's my style; I can't help it that AI has figured out that it is a tool of great expressiveness.
 

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A woman has to be attracted to you first, otherwise nothing happens. A man can be very nice and pleasant, but if she isn't attracted, she will not give him a shot. If she is attracted to you, being nice, without being a pushover will not hurt you.

Don't confuse being 'nice', with being a nice guy pushover. Women see this as an attempt at manipulation.
For the most part this is true, but if a woman is in a situation of financial need - e.g., a single mommy, or a Pinay that has an extended family to support, etc. - she will open the legs up for a man she is not attracted to.
 

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Matter of fact, an alpha IS a pleasant man to be around because he's capable of a lotta things that most average and below dudes are not for example, his balls will nlbe emptied on a regular, whereas the "nice guy" is actually oozing sexual frustration.
It's OVER for OozingSexualFrustrationCels. :mad:
 

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For the most part this is true, but if a woman is in a situation of financial need - e.g., a single mommy, or a Pinay that has an extended family to support, etc. - she will open the legs up for a man she is not attracted to.
Good point
 
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