"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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A New Year a New Person

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So as the new school year rolls around I am looking to reinvent myself.
I want to change myself for the better. I am putting faith in all the HighSchool DJ's to help me out here. After reading most of the bible I realized that being a DJ is not all about women. A true DJ is straight up chill.

Anyways my idea was to take small steps. So for tomorrow what is my small step; Chat some girl on facebook, text some girl, or smaller than that just say hi to someone new.

I'm totally lost so hopefully someone can guide me on my way
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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A good way to start would be to try to make some new friends. It's a lot easier than you think, and having a lot of friends never hurts ;o.

But for a small step, why don't you try saying "Hi" to everyone you make eye contact with? It really helps your "Don't Care" attitude (in terms of "I don't care what others think") and you might make some new friends. Try to say "Hi" to 50 strangers before the start of the next week.

Hope it helps
 

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Yeah so the saying hi thing worked well. It seems that you catch people off guard because people rarely do that.
So right now school starts on Thursday of this week
I'm open to any ideas on how to kick off the first day of school with tips
The freshman don't know me and not to many sophmores
So let me hear some advice
If you have any questions let me know
 

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Good news I just started a 12 week workout plan to get in shape for wrestling
and I made the Varsity Soccer team the other day
Open to all advice
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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nice to see another aspiring DJ on the highschool forum! Tiesto you mentioned wanting to reinvent myself. You should check out the don juan bootcamp on this page here. I want somebody to do it with so we can talk about it and help eachother. I also think it would help with the motivation.

I too wrestle, what weight class are you?
 

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SPEAK said:
nice to see another aspiring DJ on the highschool forum! Tiesto you mentioned wanting to reinvent myself. You should check out the don juan bootcamp on this page here. I want somebody to do it with so we can talk about it and help eachother. I also think it would help with the motivation.

I too wrestle, what weight class are you?
Good advice speak, i was guna suggest the same thing for him.

I've been in 1 boot camp and just bailed out on like the 3rd week. I like your idea speak, I say, me and you start a private one so we can really get through this, with you as the moderator cause i don't know how to do it.

Tiesto, join in as well, I feel good about doing this, us 3, if you guys are committed. Set it up Speak.
 

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Right on Alex I finally found someone in my position! That third week is a b1tch. I don't know how to set up a thing with me as the moderator, I didn't think that was possible? I'll try and figure it out tonight though.

We should work out some logistics though, when do you want to start this thing. The bootcamp says to start each week on a thursday.

Do you have msn or skype or something?
 

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I have no idea a DJ "bootcamp" is
Can you fill me in?

Right now I'm 125 but I'll go 119 during the season
 

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Ok the bootcamp is an 8 week program that you do by yourself. Each week has articles you read for it and then a field program. For example week 1 had articles about raising confidence and making eye contact. Your task for week 1 is to go out and make eye contact with 50 strangers. Week 2 is the same sort of thing but you have to go have 10, five minute conversations with strangers.

The goal is that at the end you will be an alpha-male who isn't afraid of anything.


Click this link for a copy it explains itself better than I can.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I just read about it
I'm pumped and ready to start.
I don't have skype but definately can make an AIM
 

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My school starts this thursday which would be a great day to start for me...
what is your guys msn or whatever its called
 

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Haha we're all online at the same time!!

Speak, by moderator, I just mean that you're the ones who post the articles and instructions/what to do for tiesto and myself. So, I'm thinking you could start another thread for the program, and post what to do for it and stuff, me and tiesto will post our experiences there, as you will do...blah blah blah, basic dj boot camp stuff. (or you could just post it in this thread, maybe that's easier)

I am pumped as well, because I'm also on a program for actually FINISHING the DJ Bible, and it's working, if you guys haven't finished it yet, I'll direct you to the program.

Let's set this up!

I don't have msn or skype, add me on facebook and we can do some instant message chat stuff to talk.


Also, Thursday sounds good, I'm proned to say next thursday just to procrastinate, but by all means, if you guys are ready this week, lets do it! However, I think it might be better to modify the rules a little, since we're in high school (and this wasn't intended for hs) maybe start it on monday or sunday.

:rock:
 

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tiesto5 said:
Yo Alex what is your profile picture of?
its got the face of the sexiest guy you've ever seen, cuddling with a black-retarded looking dog (just the face of the dog). i have my shirt off too :cheer:
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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try this, I went to my profile and copied the link
 
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