"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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A New Year, A New Beginning

thecraftylefty

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Maybe you’ve been saying to yourself “I’m going get my life straightened out this time,” or “I could do a lot more if I just take a chance more often” but just haven’t gotten around to it. You really want to, but feel like there’s nothing motivating you enough to do it and go through with it.

Well, what better a time to start than right now! Right now! A new year is nearing and that means a whole new beginning once again. You can start off in, or with, high spirits and aspirations for what awaits you this coming year.

Think about it. You start off with a clean slate. There are no marks against you. It’s a fresh, new start to what could possibly be the step that needed to be taken to get you pumped up and ready to turn your life around to be way you really want it to.

Do it for yourself. You’re probably the one person you’ve been neglecting this past year, so indulge in yourself for a change and make this coming year the best one yet.

(Also, here’s your chance to jot down whatever goals or resolutions anyone has for the new year.)

thecraftylefty
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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david90

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I think people who wait for a certain date or an event so they can start change themselves are just making excuses and delaying. if u gonna change, do it now.
 

ego

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"I think people who wait for a certain date or an event so they can start change themselves are just making excuses and delaying. if u gonna change, do it now."

I agree with you, totally. It's just like the people that sets up a date to stop smoking :p

You wanna change? You change RIGHT NOW, or whenever you feel that you're ready. It could be to new year(yeah!), but also in the middle of the next year, or in a couple of weeks.

"You can start off in, or with, high spirits and aspirations for what awaits you this coming year."

You could do that every morning if you got the motivation :) Go out, and start approach girls. Right now. Or, wait until the beginning of january 2005. If you don't have the motivation to start right now i bet you got the motivation to start off in 2 days. :)

Life's too short to worry about yesterday... remember that.
 

BigWillyStyle

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Blah! to new years resolutions.

thecrafylefty, it's a fresh new year, but there are still marks against you, you can't start "afresh"

Hate it when people make new years resolutions, for ****s sake you can do it any time of the year.

Although, I do see what your saying on parring the next year with your current one, seeing if you can better it from learning from the past.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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stevey_2000

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bigwillystyle, you should calm down a bit, my friend, you sound like a scrooge ;)

my new years resolutions?

* hit the gym and concentrate on myself as next april i'm going to live in spain to start a new life.

* Learn spanish for obvious reasons.

* don't worry too much on girls, (which the majority of the board seems to be doing nowadays, chill pills needed).

* try to make new friends and save money.

may i take this opportunity to wish everyone a happy new year and hope it's the start of good things to come for my fellow DJ's,

happy new year!!

Ste.
 

Panda 2000

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Yes, new years resolutions are a tough one. Sure, people say, you can make those resolutions any time of the year, but a new year is somewhat symbolic and gives you a boost to really keeping to those promises, and also it gives you a nice way to measure how you've progressed, since you know you started changing at the beginning of the year. That said, I'll share the things I wish to improve upon and accomplish in 2005 (damn 2005 sounds so futuristic).
  • Buy myself that set of drums and practice a lot.
  • Draw more and do computer drawing and painting more, I think I really have a knack for that, but I've slacked off too much lately.
  • Cut some fat, hit the gym.
  • Meet more chicks and interesting people in general.
  • And don't slack off in school.
 
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