"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Its usually always one girl that is in the equation of our ideas and discussions.

But let's strive to help each other out to get 4 in one bed, etc.

That's the types of threads that should be going on here. Otherwise, I'm sorry to say its been a full year of just oneitis shyness etc...frankly, therapy is more useful for that.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Therapy ? Finding a good therapist is about the same odds as finding a good 39yo woman to marry in America. Possible but not easy.

To many guys here, myself included, this is my therapy. Why in the hell would I want to pay some therapist to tell me the same sh!t stained blue pill jargon about life that I believed for 35 years? Until I wised up and figured out that it was fictious content, just like my bugs bunny avatar!
 
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Therapy ? Finding a good therapist is about the same odds as finding a good 39yo woman to marry in America. Possible but not easy.

To many guys here, myself included, this is my therapy. Why in the hell would I want to pay some therapist to tell me the same sh!t stained blue pill jargon about life that I believed for 35 years? Until I wised up and figured out that it was fictious content, just like my bugs bunny avatar!
Correct. These "experts" are putting out HR-approved feminist tropes that will chalk up your breakup to "communication is key in relationships" thus you probably didn't "listen to her." These frauds steal $250 an hour to lie to your face.

Understand something, most corporations and independent contractors alike work off of a fem-centric agenda because women make up 75% of the spending in this consumerist economy. They need to keep the demographic spending the majority of the money happy.
 

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Still....my point was that after so many years...most of us haven't got down how to get a girl, so maybe we should focus on all of us getting multiple girls.

Idk...
 

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Still....my point was that after so many years...most of us haven't got down how to get a girl, so maybe we should focus on all of us getting multiple girls.

Idk...
One good is enough for me. Don't have neither the time nor the energy for more.

We are not all at the same level. You cannot ask a 20 yo to want the same as a 35 or 55. If you come here at 35 you will certainly have a much harder time swallowing the red pill than a teen who's been barely molded by his life and still have to learn a lot.

I would be really curious to have some honest reports of some of the biggest women-eaters here who brag about how many girls they hit on Saturday night when they will actually fall in love and be in a relationship.

SS is my therapy even though I am lucky I found an anti-feminist therapist as well.

I am really new here but I think we need to grow some "nobody left behind" mentality if we want to win this war.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Still....my point was that after so many years...most of us haven't got down how to get a girl, so maybe we should focus on all of us getting multiple girls.

Idk...
That information is here in the DJ bible and on multiple threads. I get nuggets of helpful info from every thread I read. You must take action for this stuff to work. You have to have confidence and be willing to fail to be a success. Impliment adive given to you. This is not easy. Its work.

Pm some of the more experienced members for advice. Most will happily help you. I currently chat on the phone with a few to offer support and tips.

We help each other because no one understands our mission better than one of our brethern.

Getting a girl is not easy. That's a fact.
 
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