Hi all, it's been a while since I've even visited these forums. Now, I have a new problem.
Before I was really, really insecure but didn't know it. I breathed out of my mouth, my posture sucked, I had a speech impediment, I thought I had a mood disorder (which added onto my insecurity), etc etc. You get the picture.
Well, now I fixed all that (the insecurity hit me suddenly and I changed instantly), but now it's the opposite. Now it's pretty much impossible for me to get any more secure with myself. Suddenly I have brilliant people skills. Nobody is higher value than me. EVERYONE looks away or down when I walk down the street. I experimented over the last few days (school just started for me) just to see what I could do, including persuading the girl from Subway to put more meatballs on my sandwich after her boss just told her to only put 4 on. I've just become "the man," who does what he wants and doesn't care whether he fits in or not.
This sounds like it would be awesome, and it is, except that I'm still not getting girls. If this goes on for too much longer, I might start to get insecure again.
They all seem completely scared of me. I'll look at them and smile and they'll just turn away. But then I see their hand go right for their hair and then they look at me again. The hair thing is almost universal, so I know they're at least a little attracted.
It's not really in my nature to go chase down girls and hit on them and put myself at their mercy like that, but I guess that's what I've got to do?
Basically, it feels like now, everyone respects me, but they still don't see me as an approachable person. This goes for guys too. They act nervous around me. It was cool at first, but now I feel loneliness coming on.
Before I was really, really insecure but didn't know it. I breathed out of my mouth, my posture sucked, I had a speech impediment, I thought I had a mood disorder (which added onto my insecurity), etc etc. You get the picture.
Well, now I fixed all that (the insecurity hit me suddenly and I changed instantly), but now it's the opposite. Now it's pretty much impossible for me to get any more secure with myself. Suddenly I have brilliant people skills. Nobody is higher value than me. EVERYONE looks away or down when I walk down the street. I experimented over the last few days (school just started for me) just to see what I could do, including persuading the girl from Subway to put more meatballs on my sandwich after her boss just told her to only put 4 on. I've just become "the man," who does what he wants and doesn't care whether he fits in or not.
This sounds like it would be awesome, and it is, except that I'm still not getting girls. If this goes on for too much longer, I might start to get insecure again.
They all seem completely scared of me. I'll look at them and smile and they'll just turn away. But then I see their hand go right for their hair and then they look at me again. The hair thing is almost universal, so I know they're at least a little attracted.
It's not really in my nature to go chase down girls and hit on them and put myself at their mercy like that, but I guess that's what I've got to do?
Basically, it feels like now, everyone respects me, but they still don't see me as an approachable person. This goes for guys too. They act nervous around me. It was cool at first, but now I feel loneliness coming on.