First and foremost, if you have not read the post I made in the Tips section on Perspective then please do so, otherwise this post may be a little confusing.
Recently it seems like we always have at least a half-dozen open threads in this section of the forum dedicated to the negative side of women. There is nothing uplifting or positive in them, only a constant barrage against women. It does not seem like most of you have any interest in flipping the perspective on what you are saying and wording your ideas in a constructive manner.
Example - the current "Trust" thread. Instead of discussing whether or not trust should be blind and coming to an agreement that we should focus on the things that keep a woman interested (such as maintaining personal interests, being the man in the relationship, and standing our ground when need be), the thread turns into an analysis on how unfaithful and untrustworthy women can be. If you are posting those thoughts then that is probably your perspective on relationships. Why are you even bothering with women if your thoughts immediately lean towards ideas like "women will cheat if unhappy" or "marriage is risky because she'll take half of my stuff"?
Now do not get me wrong - those are one side of reality. I accept that. What we could discuss is that yes, people have to earn trust and show that they are trustworthy, and that part of our lifelong goal should any of us choose to get married is to continue to keep her very interested in us - so how do we do it? Ranting on extremely negative problems with women seems like it belongs in the High School forum. It shows a lack of desire to gain a positive perspective on things. I think we're all better than that.
Recently it seems like we always have at least a half-dozen open threads in this section of the forum dedicated to the negative side of women. There is nothing uplifting or positive in them, only a constant barrage against women. It does not seem like most of you have any interest in flipping the perspective on what you are saying and wording your ideas in a constructive manner.
Example - the current "Trust" thread. Instead of discussing whether or not trust should be blind and coming to an agreement that we should focus on the things that keep a woman interested (such as maintaining personal interests, being the man in the relationship, and standing our ground when need be), the thread turns into an analysis on how unfaithful and untrustworthy women can be. If you are posting those thoughts then that is probably your perspective on relationships. Why are you even bothering with women if your thoughts immediately lean towards ideas like "women will cheat if unhappy" or "marriage is risky because she'll take half of my stuff"?
Now do not get me wrong - those are one side of reality. I accept that. What we could discuss is that yes, people have to earn trust and show that they are trustworthy, and that part of our lifelong goal should any of us choose to get married is to continue to keep her very interested in us - so how do we do it? Ranting on extremely negative problems with women seems like it belongs in the High School forum. It shows a lack of desire to gain a positive perspective on things. I think we're all better than that.