"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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A NEG hit which I'm quite proud of

LuisGarcia10

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Before I joined this forum I was always a funny person, that wasn't an aspect that I needed to work on.

I've always had the ability to make people laugh, more so in one on one situations simply because I often lacked the confidence to crack jokes to classes full of people and the like.

I suppose the only notable difference in that side of my personality since joining the forum is the fact that I now do crack jokes infront of classes full of people, and successfully as well.

Now humour plays a large part in being able to successfully NEG hit, seeing as there has to be something in there to differentiate it from just being plain insulting.

Therefore if you feel that humour is an area you need to work on then it may be wise to get it to a better level before you attempt a NEG hit, or you may find yourself getting slapped. ;)

It took me a while to learn to apply my sense of humour to NEG hits, which inevitably encountered a few failures along the way.

The one which I'm most proud of occured last Thursday at College.

I'd been gone a couple of weeks and had got back that day and went and talked to a HB8 who I spoke to fairly frequently in College.

When I got there she was being fairly blank, not rude or anything but slightly cold and not the warm exterior which I'd gradually built up before I'd left.

Rather than worrying about the reason behind it like I used to before joining this place (cheers lads :)), I just assumed she'd had a bad day or whatever and carried on as normal.

Now I know you're all thinking that using NEG hits on HB8's isn't the best of ideas but this girl is very sure of herself and needs to be taken down a pedestal or two to avoid getting pissed about by her. Infact, this very example will go some way to showing you her level of self-confidence, or "self-appreciation" as she calls it.

We got on the topic of her at work, she works at some chineese restaraunt where sleezy blokes hit on her.We then got onto the topic of the amount of tips she gets off these blokes:

HB8: One night me and all the other girls combined collected £80 tips.

Me: (looking confused) Were all the other girls really fit or something?

HB8: (smiling) I'd forgotten how annoying you are.

From then on the cold exterior went.

Now I know what you're thinking, that the NEG it's self wasn't that ingenious, the actual humour involved is nothing special.

Fortunately the purpose of NEG hits is not to have the girl in fits of laughter, it's to bring her down a notch or two and destroy and ***** shield that may be apparent, whilst at the same time just raising interest slightly.

That is exactly what that NEG achieved, down to pin point accuracy.

I'm very proud of that paticular one. ;)
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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quest

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not so bad.. pretty good situation to hit with a little neg like that..

this was what first came to my head.

HB8: One night me and all the other girls combined collected £80 tips.

You: Only the once?

some people may be so dim they miss the insult, but she's bragging about getting £80 and ur saying she should be getting that all the time. it appears an honest question and raises your value. she may even validate herself to you, "well no! we've done it a few times." or u may get a playful punch and a "f*ck you" with a smile.
 

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A neg-hit is meant to display disinterest... Since you asked a question, this is not the case..

The fact that you got her to smile during normal conversation meant that this is just a C&F response... not your purist Neg Hit!!
 

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Its a neg.


No idea why u need to show off your definition of it though.


Originally posted by MacDiddy
A neg-hit is meant to display disinterest... Since you asked a question, this is not the case..

The fact that you got her to smile during normal conversation meant that this is just a C&F response... not your purist Neg Hit!!
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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TillTheEndOfTime

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Originally posted by LuisGarcia10



Now I know you're all thinking that using NEG hits on HB8's isn't the best of ideas but this girl is very sure of herself and needs to be taken down a pedestal or two to avoid getting pissed about by her. Infact, this very example will go some way to showing you her level of self-confidence, or "self-appreciation" as she calls it.

What??? Neg hitting was MADE for good looking girls. They're used to losers crawling on the ground for them because of their looks. When you neg hit it totally throws them off and drives them crazy ("Why isn't he bowing down to me!?!"). Its drives their IL higher.
 

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Mystery will cry if he ever read this board. Or tear his hair out.
 

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Re: Re: A NEG hit which I'm quite proud of

Originally posted by TillTheEndOfTime
What??? Neg hitting was MADE for good looking girls. They're used to losers crawling on the ground for them because of their looks. When you neg hit it totally throws them off and drives them crazy ("Why isn't he bowing down to me!?!"). Its drives their IL higher.
You've misunderstood me.

What I meant was that it's made for the 9's and 10's where as the 8's might not be quite so high in confidence.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Did you by any chance play at the 1994 world cup and score some goals and then get into this dispute with your ex-wife about wether you beat her or not?
 

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I always wondered why the bible preaches C+F it leads to the freindzone.

The most succesful technique to me is the mysterious,I don't give a fvck attitude.
 
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