"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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A low success rate: All we need in Dating as well.

Boilermaker

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I think this essay is phenomenal:

http://tynan.com/lowsuccess

Before you finish reading it, you'll make the connection to Dating. But he makes the connection.

We don't need very high success rates as DJ's. Even if you fail most of the time, you could still be doing better than 99 percent.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Good post. Thanks. You think you could remind me of this every week?
 

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I sent out dozens of emails and got only one reply.
I always find these sort of statements interesting because every time I have been on a dating site, I have never seen dozens of women I'd even want to email.

Where is this magic land of hotties who all online date?
 

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his emails had nothing to do with online dating.

You may want to read the whole thing.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Nice find.

I used to know this guy that was absolutely phenomenal at game. I didn't know it back then, but he was using anti-dump's techniques to the letter (Coincidentally, this was quite a while ago).

Was always filling the sales funnel, so to speak. He had qualifying down to a science, and was always banging at least two girls at any given time.

He said his inspiration was this book:

High Probability Selling

Which basically teaches you, in sales, to become as efficient as possible when sorting through your "leads" so you can identify the "high probability" leads.

Identify, proposition, and qualify.

Based on a model that out of 100 "leads" you'll get one or two really good ones.

(If you've ever had a job cold calling, they're always trying to reframe getting "rejected" into looking for that golden customer that will make you big cash)

My friend had taken this same model and applied it to dating. Sorting through as many women as possible, as casually as possible, as effectively as possible, qualifying the winners, and then slipping them right into his "sales funnel."

Beautiful stuff.
 

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thanks for this, really helps put things in perspective. making a copy to keep as a reminder :)
 
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