"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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A low success rate: All we need in Dating as well.

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I think this essay is phenomenal:

http://tynan.com/lowsuccess

Before you finish reading it, you'll make the connection to Dating. But he makes the connection.

We don't need very high success rates as DJ's. Even if you fail most of the time, you could still be doing better than 99 percent.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Good post. Thanks. You think you could remind me of this every week?
 

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I sent out dozens of emails and got only one reply.
I always find these sort of statements interesting because every time I have been on a dating site, I have never seen dozens of women I'd even want to email.

Where is this magic land of hotties who all online date?
 

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his emails had nothing to do with online dating.

You may want to read the whole thing.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Nice find.

I used to know this guy that was absolutely phenomenal at game. I didn't know it back then, but he was using anti-dump's techniques to the letter (Coincidentally, this was quite a while ago).

Was always filling the sales funnel, so to speak. He had qualifying down to a science, and was always banging at least two girls at any given time.

He said his inspiration was this book:

High Probability Selling

Which basically teaches you, in sales, to become as efficient as possible when sorting through your "leads" so you can identify the "high probability" leads.

Identify, proposition, and qualify.

Based on a model that out of 100 "leads" you'll get one or two really good ones.

(If you've ever had a job cold calling, they're always trying to reframe getting "rejected" into looking for that golden customer that will make you big cash)

My friend had taken this same model and applied it to dating. Sorting through as many women as possible, as casually as possible, as effectively as possible, qualifying the winners, and then slipping them right into his "sales funnel."

Beautiful stuff.
 

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thanks for this, really helps put things in perspective. making a copy to keep as a reminder :)
 
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