"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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A low success rate: All we need in Dating as well.

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I think this essay is phenomenal:

http://tynan.com/lowsuccess

Before you finish reading it, you'll make the connection to Dating. But he makes the connection.

We don't need very high success rates as DJ's. Even if you fail most of the time, you could still be doing better than 99 percent.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Good post. Thanks. You think you could remind me of this every week?
 

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I sent out dozens of emails and got only one reply.
I always find these sort of statements interesting because every time I have been on a dating site, I have never seen dozens of women I'd even want to email.

Where is this magic land of hotties who all online date?
 

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his emails had nothing to do with online dating.

You may want to read the whole thing.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Nice find.

I used to know this guy that was absolutely phenomenal at game. I didn't know it back then, but he was using anti-dump's techniques to the letter (Coincidentally, this was quite a while ago).

Was always filling the sales funnel, so to speak. He had qualifying down to a science, and was always banging at least two girls at any given time.

He said his inspiration was this book:

High Probability Selling

Which basically teaches you, in sales, to become as efficient as possible when sorting through your "leads" so you can identify the "high probability" leads.

Identify, proposition, and qualify.

Based on a model that out of 100 "leads" you'll get one or two really good ones.

(If you've ever had a job cold calling, they're always trying to reframe getting "rejected" into looking for that golden customer that will make you big cash)

My friend had taken this same model and applied it to dating. Sorting through as many women as possible, as casually as possible, as effectively as possible, qualifying the winners, and then slipping them right into his "sales funnel."

Beautiful stuff.
 

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thanks for this, really helps put things in perspective. making a copy to keep as a reminder :)
 
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